(Closed) Question re inviting children

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

On the save the dates is not the place to put it. ANd people will not remember it if it is…trust me.

As a matter of fact some will say you shoulnd’t put it anywhere because it’s rude, I however believe you need to change with the times, and I do not really think that a wedding is a place for young children (toddlers…what not), especially when the receptions starts so late.

What I would do, is start word of mouth. Mention it in conversation that it’s an adult only reception, you’ll be surprised how quickly it will travel. Get you’re parents in on it too…and just bceause they can’t come to the reception doens’t mea they can’t come tot he ceremony, and have photos take…

Then on your invite I would add in "adult only reception beginning at:" and have RSVP’s that say "We’ve reserved 2 seats in your honor" (or however many you’re inviting from that family.) Crowd control! This will stop them from adding in everyone they know and also not offering a children friendly mean is a good indicator. Seeing only two slots when there are a family with 2 young kids…will get them seeing that their kids are not invited.

Most people were respctful of the no kids thing I ahd at my wedding, some were not and brought their kids anyway and asked whey there was no seat for them….at thetime I was so busy running around the 2 kids that were there uninvited wern’t even a bother….I hardly noticed!

Careful – this post is going to spark major controversy…so always remember to go with your heart! DO WHAT YOU want, it’s your day! 


Post # 5
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2007 - Bride's family summer home in the Adirondacks

I think it’s much nicer to address it to Joe & Jane Smith and then tell them that they are welcome to bring kids to the ceremony if they want, than it would be to "invite" the kids (by saying The Smith Family) and then "take it back" by saying "but not the reception."  Also, by saying "oh and just so you know, you can feel free to bring the kids to the ceremony!" you are making it clear that you mean not the reception, but you don’t have to sound mean about it. 🙂  I also agree that marking on the RSVP cards how many guests are invited is a good way to ensure people get the hint!

Post # 7
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I love sweenyey2b’s response to crowd control! I was wondering how I could word the RSVP card to indicate that only a certain amount of seats for each family was reserved, and now I know! Thanks!

Post # 8
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You could also make arrangements to have a baby sitter on-site, but out of sight.  If you tell the parents that this option is available, they will probably be really grateful and get the hint.

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