Post # 1
My wedding coordinator is sending her assistant to oversee our rehearsal the day before the wedding. Our Wedding is the Sunday of Labor Day weekend and the rehearsal is scheduled for 12 noon the Saturday before. We will be having a Rehearsal lunch immediately following the rehearsal at a local restaurant.
Do I invite the assistant to the lunch after the rehearsal?
Any advice on whether to include the assistant would be appreciated. In addition – not sure if this will change the answer – as of now, my wedding coordinator cannot oversee because she has a wedding on the Saturday. But, she may be handling if the Saturday wedding changes to an evening wedding as opposed to a day-time wedding.
Post # 3
Hmm…it would be nice of you to invite her, but I don’t think you’re obligated. I think you’re good either way etiquette-wise.
Post # 4
It’s nice to extend the invitation but not necessary. She probably won’t accept anyway if given an easy out as she is already “working” and might appreciate being able to be off earlier.
Post # 5
Thanks so much – this is great advice. I think I will invite her – but let her know that I wouldn’t be upset if she would rather go home. I just wouldn’t want her to feel excluded.
Post # 6
I think it would be a sweet gesture, but I don’t think it’s necessary at all. Typically, the rehearsal meal is an intimate time with close friends/family – not vendors. Just because she is present at the rehearsal does not mean she’d feel left out if she wasn’t attending the meal afterwards.
Post # 7
I invited ours, it was polite. She did not come, she said she wouldn’t want to eat on our dime, so that was one nice thing ours did (I have many other complaints about ours). We also asked the band that played at our wedding and they did show up.