Post # 1
We’re going to put a poem in our wedding program and after list names of the people we’ve lost. My question is do we have to list ALL of the people we’ve lost? Or just the immediate ones? if we list everybody my list will be pretty extensive. I’m thinking we can just list my mom, granfather, his grandparents and then as a small statement after.
Sorry for the rambling, I will appreciate any help…
Post # 3
We are listing our grandparents and my uncle and his aunt as they both passed unexpectedly relatively young so their spouses will be there. I think it would be nice to name any immediate family plus those extended family members who would have been there if not for an untimely passing. I hope that helps a little!
Post # 4
@Shae726: We are just listing our grandparents, and neither of us have lost parents.
I think just immediate family is appropriate, unless of course you have a specific extended relative(s) who has been a huge part of your life.
Post # 5
Thanks girls! This helps.
Post # 6
i would just do the close ones i guess, but youre right thats a tough one!
Post # 7
Our officiate suggested we include something in the ceremony itself–
“Our community is shared, if in a different way, by those who have passed beyond this life. Their roles in the lives of Mountain Man and Retread bride are no less remembered and honored as we savor today’s joyous moments. Join with us, then, in fond memory of all these people including R’s brother John and MM’s mother Elaine. In their memory, let us be silent for a moment, together.”
I hope people will appreciate the gesture-
Post # 8
We wanted to do this, but then quickly realized that it would be impossible to name all the friends/family members we’d lost in our large extended families. We hated the idea of leaving anyone out, and we also weren’t too keen on including family members who passed away before we were born. Instead we had a pretty frame set up near some flowers, and cardstock in the frame that read “In honor of our loved ones who are not present today” or something like that.