(Closed) questioning while TTC

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We have decided to tell no one until it’s official.  And by no one I mean just that.  Sorry mom, but you’ll know when everyone else does.  It’s totally stressful.  I would honestly go the more lighthearted or passive approach if someone asks you who you feel you can’t be so blunt with.


If you don’t mind, can you share to us why you told people?  I’m not trying to sound rude, i just want to know.

Post # 4
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I personally shared with 2 or 3 people when we were TTC, and my Mom was one of them.  I suppose I wanted her to be aware of what was going on, and I told the others because they’re good friends and I wanted the moral and prayer support. 

It can put extra pressure on those who are TTC for others to know, yes.  But it can also be nice to have a sounding board, or at least the emotional support of others.  That’s pending their ability to stay quiet about it, and their ability to be sensitive and not ask all the time.

@the original poster, people can be so dang annoying, no?  I didn’t personally get too many people asking.  The awkward questioning continues when you’re pregnant, too.  I wish you well in kindly saying “Sorry, but those details are for me and my husband to know at this point” :).

Post # 5
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I too told two people, my sister and my Future Sister-In-Law, that we were TTC. I wanted to make sure my sister was okay with it since I am in her FL wedding next May. It was helpful to know I had support and could vent and giggle about babies and TTC without telling everyone.

We didn’t wait after our wedding to start TTC, so we missed most of the annoying “when” questions. Although I have one particular coworker who likes to tease and joke with all the women in the office, myself included, about us all being preggers. For the most part I either shrug it off, or say something along the lines of wanting to settle into married life, settle into our new home, or have some time to travel/enjoy being alone before having kids. It might be a little vague or misleading if you are TTC, but at least it tends to get people to drop it for a bit.

Post # 6
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

if you are ok with people knowing youre trying, i would just say, not yet but we will be sure to tell everyone when we are!

good luck getting that bfp!

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