(Closed) Questions about Bridal Shower…

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

1) This seems to be a cultural thing.  I know I have some friends with different backgrounds where the groom is expected to show up for part of the shower.  However, I have never attended a shower personally where the groom attended.

2) I didn’t invite people I didn’t know because it made me uncomfortable, but this is not uncommon.  I think it’s up to you/the hosts, and what you think is best!

Post # 4
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Unless it is a co-ed shower with all the men invited that go with the women, I have never seen the groom attend but have always seen him come for the end (maybe the last 30 minutes). He can say hi to everyone, maybe have a piece of cake and help load the cars up with the gifts.

The shower should be close family and bridal party and close friends. Distant relatives should not be invited for gifts.

Post # 5
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

1) Mine was ladies only

2) There were totally people I didn’t know, which was very awkward when I opened gifts and didn’t know who to look at.  Awkward!!!

Post # 6
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

1. Where I’m from, unless its a Jack and Jill shower its ladies only. The groom normally comes towards the end to thank the guest for the gifts and help his soon to be wife pack everything up. This is what we’re planning to do.

2. You shouldn’t invite people just for the gifts anyway but no, I wouldn’t invite women who I  hardly even know. We’re inviting all of the women that are invited to our wedding with the exception of FI’s co-workers wives (since I’ve never even met most of them) but we’re also not inviting any distant relatives to our wedding who we’re not close to.

Post # 7
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m definitely no expert on this, but the way I figured it, it was up to the hostess(es) to decide who was/wasn’t invited since technically it’s a party that THEY are organizing(and likely paying for) Having said that, they asked for my input on who to invite and I told the hostess that she should invite whoever she wanted to.  She said this meant there would be some guests on the in-law side that I probably have never met, as well as girlfriends/wives/fiancees of the groom’s family members.  I said this was not a big deal (in the spirit of “your family is mine too now”)

Post # 9
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I don’t think the groom needs to be there. Mine was, but that’s b/c I wanted him there and he didn’t mind, and other guys were invited too. I think tradition is that he doesn’t come, but people are less traditional now a days.

I invited people that I haven’t met on his side. I figured it would be better to meet them at a shower which is more intimate so I could get to know them a little bit before the wedding. And they’re important to his family so they’re important to me.

Post # 10
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yay!  Showers are so exciting.  I have 3 coming up soon 🙂  My Fiance is not coming to any of them, and has not been invited 🙂

If your Future Mother-In-Law expects your Fiance at the shower, but he does not want to attend, I suggest leaving it up to him to discuss this with his mother.  I wouldn’t get in the middle.

I am going to have people I don’t know at my showers for two reasons:

1 – one shower is out of state, and I will be meeting wives of cousins that I have not met because I live far away.  They are attending the shower mainly because they will not attend the wedding, and this is our celebration together.

2 – I have a weird family structure, and 1 family member is like a mother to me.  She is hosting a shower for her female friends, and I have not met all of them.  I am uncomfortable with this, but she has celebrated their kids weddings and her friends want to do the same for her.  I’m letting it go and thinking of it more as a party to honor her as a sort-of-mother of the bride.

I think that it’s ok to have people you don’t know there, because it’s also about the family.  Just my .02!


Post # 11
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The bridal showers that I’ve attended have been all females

Post # 12
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

1) Unless its a couples shower (or Jack and Jill shower) then no, the groom does not attend. Honestly it would be extremely awkward for the groom to be there – he would feel sooo alone being the only male!!

2) I only invited DHs aunts (moms sisters and sisters in law) and my aunts and then my friends. I did not invite every female that was invited to the wedding.

Post # 14
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

1. Where I’m from its considered rude if the groom doesn’t make an appearance at the end. He doesn’t stay for the whole time but he comes like 30 min before it ends to thank the guests and then take the gifts to the car.

2. We invite the family we are close with which includes just about everyone. Not because the bride wants more presents but b/c people would have issues if they weren’t invited.

The topic ‘Questions about Bridal Shower…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors