(Closed) Questions about Catholic Wedding Invitations

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@ChantelleC90:  Traditionally, invitations are sent out by the host and hostess. As the bride’s parents would have often paid for the wedding, the invitations were often sent out by them, on behalf of the bride and groom.

If you are paying for your wedding, you and Fiance are the host and hostess. Therefore the invitations should be sent from both of you. Hope this helps!

Post # 4
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ChantelleC90:  I wouldnt worry about putting any other names on the invite unless they are paying for/contributing to the wedding fund. Names on invites are not because its a church tradtion, its basically all about money! The tradition of brides parents names stems from the days of old when the father of the bride typically footed the bill. 


Im catholic, Fi is catholic…we’re getting married in the catholic church but we are hosting on our own…and all our invites say is shanbp and shanbp’s Fiance request the honor of your presence as we exchange vows on our wedding day blah blah blah. We wanted to make note of our families just because (even though we’re hosting alone) so we added a line “please join together with our families in celebration” at the bottom. 


Ours is not as formal as nuptial mass because were just having the ceremony and a liiiiiiiittle extra…. but you would just add in your sacrement of matrimony etc… line instead of our exchange of vows…


IF your mom/his parents are paying… then you will need to speak to them about whether they expect to me on the invite. If your mom is… then you can simply have her name on it alone, or followed by …”Mrs brides mom and the late Mr. Brides dad” (if you want to honor him that way). Otherwise your mom alone is fine. 


ex: mrs. brides mom requests the honor of your presence at the nutial mass of her daughter ________ to _________ son of __________ (if they are helping pay) 


 If you and Fiance are hosting it by yoursleves then no parents names need to be on there at all!


Post # 5
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Actually our said nupital mass, but since you aren’t having a mass then I’d put holy matrimony, as mantrimony can be considered holy by all protestant faiths. 

Post # 6
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@ChantelleC90:  I agree with Rachel361.  There were all these books and online advise things about how to “properly” write wedding invitations with very reason behind them beside “this is just how its done.”

My recommendation is to use traditional wording and don’t worry about Catholic wording.  There’s just special wording for mentioning that the ceremony will include a Mass. Since you’re not having a mass, you don’t need to figure out how to politely include that information.


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