Post # 1
I’m writing an article for a local Catholic paper about marrying a non-Catholic in a Catholic ceremony.
I offered to do it because I can speak from my own perspective, but I also wondered if any of you guys had questions that I should also address.
So…any Catholic ladies marrying non-Catholics/or non-Catholics marrying Catholics… what questions or concerns did you have before starting your Catholic marriage prep?
Post # 3
I married a non-Catholic. I think one question I should have asked myself was whether I was truly prepared to spend the rest of my life sitting alone in Mass (or with my children later). Another one I should have explored was whether my fiance truly understood how important it was for me to get to church and whether he understood what it meant to agree not to interfere with raising our children Catholic; I grew up with a Protestant father (he converted recently) and I think I would have had a harder time genuinely believing the Catholic Church had it right if I had suspected that he didn’t believe in it. I looked up to him quite a bit. He went to Mass every week with our family and was prepared to answer, or at least direct us to an answer, any question we had about religion.
Maybe those are heavier questions than what you’re looking for? Some of the lighter ones that I asked the priest about were what my fiance’s responsibilities were, whether it would make the process longer, and whether it was appropriate to have a full Mass.
Post # 4
Not me, but my mom did. I think that people don’t realize that as they get older, if your faith is important to you at all while you’re a young adult, it will likely only get more important to you as you grow older. And, if you get married and think something like “love conquers all,” you’re in total denial of the pain and loneliness you’ll experience as you grow older and realize that you can’t share your faith, which is one of the most important things in your life, with the most important human in your life.
So, yeah, based on what I saw while growing up, I made a conscious decision to NEVER marry a non-Catholic, or even a Catholic who wasn’t committed to his faith. (And I did have to follow through on that decision with my non-Catholic bf in college….)