- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So, first, I want to say that I have some medical training and I’ve done my homework on NFP as far as looking at the numbers, articles in medical journals, etc., and it’s effectiveness and all it’s forms. I’m understanding of the risk that I could get pregnant regardless of how vigilant I am…But here I am, Catholic, 4 months into my marriage and really worried about what to do now. My husband is not Catholic, but we married in the church, he supports my beleifts, though he undertands little about them and can be critical of how strict the rules are…but when we did precana we spoke with a couple who used NFP, and he said he’d be willing to give it a try after we’re married. Well, again, it’s been 4 months and I still don’t know where to begin. I supposed I need to call the church and actually have another couple teach me how to do it, is the legit way? It’s funny, the data doesn’t tell me how women become educated about it…it’s a whole gray area I don’t understand…but I do recall the church sayiing they can get us in contact with people who teach it.
So, my questions and concerns are, about actually being taught by someone. How long does it typically take to learn? Do you take “classes”…how many? My other question was about my husband’s involvment in it, as when people talk about it they make it sound like the husband is so involved…I mentioned he’s supportive, but I really highly doubt he’d take my tempature and chart for me…he works two jobs while I stay home and study full time…I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t find the time. Also, I”m not sure how keen he’d be on actually going with me to classes. I guess when he says he’s supportive of it, he means he’s willing to abstain on fertile days until we are ready to concieve…but tha’ts abou tit. And the other thing is that I don’t know if he understands that that means we can’t have any contact during that time…I don’t even know how the church feels about us doing activities that aren’t open to life while not using artificial contraception if you catch my drift, but i”m pretty sure my husband will suggest those things, not being catholic himself…a.nd he probably won’t understand that we are supposed to fully abstain.
So what’s a catholic girl to do if her husband just doens’t get it..and is just along for the ride?
I’m graduate college next summer, and I’d just like to hold off on childen until I have a job. The degree I will have will open me up to a very in demand field, so I imagine I would have a job within few moths after graduation.