Post # 1
As background, FI is Mexican (born and raised) and I am from the United States. We are getting married in the U.S. with a bilingual mass and are planning on incorporating the lazo and arras. One of the issues that has come up is padrinos and who is supposed to present these things to us. I have read that the lazo in particular is usually placed by the mothers but I think that at most of the weddings we have been to it has been done by a younger couple. But now I am doubting myself and I don’t want to ask my suegra because I don’t want to offend her if she expects to be the one to do it.
So my question for all of you who had or are having padrinos and/or have been to more Mexican weddings than we have, who are the padrinos, typically? And how many sets should we have? I have also read about people having padrinos de velacion but am not quite sure what this means–what role do these people usually play in a wedding? (Note that we are paying for the wedding ourselves, with a little help from my parents.)
Post # 3
I am Mexican, and I have the same questions lol. We are paying for everything ourselves (with help from our parents) and so far we only have padrinos de arras (sp?) and padrinos de lazo/mancuerna. I was told these were the two main padrinos so we chose FI’s cousins for arras and my uncle and aunt for the lazo. I think padrinos de velacion turn on a candle or something. Also you could have padrinos de anillos.
Post # 4
My FI is also Mexican, and according to him, our best man and maid of honor are supposed to hold the arras and lazo, so I just took his word for it!
The number of sets of padrinos is totally up to you, but I think it works much the same way American weddings do when you have a lot of people you want to honor somehow by including them in your wedding. In American weddings, if you have a lot of people to include in the wedding, you start adding ushers and guest book attendants and whatnot. Similarly in Mexican weddings, you add padrinos.
Post # 5
Both my parents are Mexican, I was born here, and was raised with heavy Mexican traditions.
@estrellastar You can have as many padrinos as you want. Some padrinos are for rings, arras, lozo, and velacion. Other padrinos are those that gift you money to help pay for the wedding. Amounts can be small, $20, or as much as they can and want to give. The padrinos de arrars can be a man or women or a couple. Padrinos de lazo, preferably, should be a married couple who has had a strong lasting marriage. The reason for the lazo is to bless and bind you together into a lasting marriage. Hence why you’d prefer being blessed by a couple with a lasting marriage themselves. Another option would be the bestman and maid of honor. Padrinos de velacion are a couple that will guard and provide guidance for the well-being of the new marriage. Again, preferably a couple who’s marriage you admire and respect. They will light candles as a symbol of sponsorship to your marriage. They typically will pay for your wedding mass.
Hope that helped!
Post # 6
Chalupa girl you have it down. I agree with your comments mis padres son Mexicanos and I grew up very Mexican most people would refer to me as a naca however this naca is educated and a teacher (however not the best speller when I blog)!
For the padrinos de lazo it is recommended that they be a married couple depending on the church you are getting married, I am going to take the liberty of guessing that you are getting married in a catholic church however if I am wrong my apologizes. For our church el padre ask that the lazo be presented only by a married catholic pair (that is at my church) that you admire and symbolize for you as Chalupa mention what a marriage is all about.
As for the padrinos de anillos if we go to Mexico it implies they are the ones that paid for your rings . All you need is someone to present the arras (coins that the bride and groom present to each other kind of like the unity candle but in Mexico they use coins to symbolize richness and in poverty.
You will need padrinos de lazo y arras other than that it is up to you.