- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
When my fiance and I got engaged, we were very young. Still teenagers to be exact. But we were in love and knew we wanted to marry. We were unable to afford a ring at the time, but I didn’t care – we were saving up. My mom and I were shopping one day and she found a ring she thought was the “wise choice” because of how “economical” it was. She talked us into it, and we bought it.
It’s not my style at all. It’s very small – which doesn’t really matter to me, but everything that made it “economical” just is very dissappointing. Already the setting is all scratched. Plus, my fiance and I both think – now that we’ve given it some thought and research – that the jeweler scammed us.
Throughout the time we’ve been engaged, we’ve nearly broken up several times. I have several mental disorders and having a relationship with those is very difficult. I commend him for sticking with me though. I admire him so much for that and love him even more.
We are older now, and we had a pretty bad fight one night and we split up for like 3 hours before coming back together and staying up all night to talk. We discussed everything and it really made us stronger. I feel like now we’re stronger and better than ever.
That being said, I approached him about a new ring. We both agreed we should save up for it together and share the costs. This ring to us is not just a ring, but a symbol of us leaving the past behind and moving forward. It symobolizes our strengthend relationship, and our maturity – not having a ring Mommy picked out and talked us into. It also symbolizes a fresh start. I’d still wear my other, but this new ring will mean so much to both of us and we already picked one out.
I am in love with it. I got goosebumps and my fiance had a huge smile on his face when we first saw it. The problem is my family thinks it’s very disgraceful to “update” an engagement ring. They think it’s very tacky. I don’t understand. My mom convinced us to get this ring that we don’t really like all that much – talking my fiance into buying it for me. We’ve found a new ring that is extra special to us, and I am worried they’ll be upset at us for “updating.”
What are your thoughts on the situation? Do you think it’s tacky, or do you understand the importance and symbolism behind it?