Questions about what to wear at an Indian wedding?!

posted 2 years ago in South Asian
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

“dress in Indian wear”???

You don’t even know what you’re looking for. Just wear your normal ass wedding clothes. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

llboogie :  I’ve attended many Indian weddings. I might be able to help. But first, is wearing an Indian dress part of the dress code?

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I’m Asian Indian. You can wear what you’d like, you don’t need to wear a sari or salwar khameez. A nice dress is more than appropriate. Just be aware that depending on the venue and couple, you may be expected to go shoeless, so plan accordingly. If they are going to have a raas (dance), wear something you can move in. If you do want to wear traditional Indian dress, a salwar khameez (long tunic with pants) is easiest on the learning curve and most likely to get a rewear at a non-Indian function. They also make beautiful top/skirt sets (blanking on the name) with traditional embroidery and beading. 

As far as looking “cheap,” just wear some bold jewelry  Indian women tend to really bling out for weddings. 

Have fun!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

llboogie :  In order to help you better I would also need to know what kind of marriage ceremony you will be attending and what rituals. The dresses vary by rituals. For example, at a henna/turmeric pre-marriage ceremony for the bride, the guests normally wear brightly coloured, but otherwise plain cotton clothing. The heavy silks are reserved for the other parts of the wedding.

Remember at an Indian wedding more is less. Indians are not shy about wearing orange, yellow, bright fuscia dresses. Lots of shimmering gold and beads. It is not seen as attention seeking as it is considered in the west. The more bright colours worn, the more auspicious and better it is considered.

This is what people commonly wear at Indian wedding receptions:

Post # 7
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Busy bee

These are the kind of outfits that are seen as everyday wear and that you would like to stay away from. Simple cotton suits and kurtas are out of question. So also are casual outfits like denims and tee shirts, polo neck shirts, etc. It is best to avoid any plain printed outfit which lacks embellishment like sequins or beadwork, etc., unless it is crafted from a rich fabric like silk or brocade.

 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Unless it’s part of the dress code, you are probably better off dressing in your own style. I would probably wear something like this:

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

Indian here! Weddings are where you bring out the best of the best. No one expects foreigners to keep up with the Indians as the outfits we wear to weddings cost thousands of dollars ! But I actually think that it’s a really beautiful gesture wearing ethnic clothing! I would stay away from wearing a sari unless you have someone to help you. Wear a skirt or a salwar! The more ornate the better. But I’d stay away from red as some modern brides treat it like wearing white to a western wedding. I would say no to the cotton. But there are plenty more affordable options. Idk the names but there’s this net material ..velvets are on trend. There are plenty of websites that take your measurements n ship to the states. Make sure you have enough time to get the item though..done take months to get here. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

Oh! Don’t wear too much white either. If they are Hindu, it’s what we wear to funerals lol

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

llboogie :  yes of course. I don’t mind at all

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

I would rent from Borrow It Bindaas. It’s like Rent the Runway for Indian clothes. If you want to buy, I would recommend Utsav.com or Panash India. Stay away from Mirraw.com, their stuff is cheap and bad quality. Where are you located? Major metro areas like Dallas, Chicago, New York, Bay, and New Jersey have great stores too.

And definitely stay away from the stuff greywacke :  said to stay away from, kurtas and tunics won’t look fancy enough. 

Also, is it a North Indian or South Indian wedding? Hindu, Muslim, or Christian? I ask because This would affect clothing decisions. Although honestly…no one is going to care if the non-Indian person wears whatever they feel comfortable lol. I would ask the bride/groom 🙂

Lastly, unless some auntie who knows what they are doing is going to be there to help you, I would stay away from ghagra-cholis and saris, as they were difficult to wear/drape on your own. If you really want something nice, go with an Anarkali, Indo-western one-piece gown, or a heavier salvaar-kameez. 

Bold colors are good. Stay away from white, black and red. Good luck! I’m sure you’ll look gorgeous 🙂 Below are some examples of a friend of a friend’s wedding with non-Indian bridesmaids.

 

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