Post # 1
So today my Fiance and I are meeting the priest, we get married July 20th and I wanted to figure out which questions we need to specifically ask of him, I have the following questions but not sure if I should be asking something else? We’re also providing him my/our choice in readings based off a website that shows the new translations of readings and will ensure he’s okay with our selections.
We have already done the marriage prep course at that church and have the certificate for that 🙂 I’m just worried I’ll miss something I should be asking and not get the chance to ask later…. I already have the outlined guidelines for donations and the restrictions on decor/throwing stuff and the fact we have to use live music. Its not that easy to get time to speak with the Priest as even though I’m registered at this church, I do normally attend my Parents church =/
Restrictions on Ages of Flowergirl/Ringbearer?
Stands to place two arrangements on? (we can rent if they don’t provide)
Can we write our own vows to exchange after the consent and before the blessing of the rings in addition to the traditional church vows? (We know this is probably not possible, but my Fiance actually really wanted to write his own vows)
Possible to get the contact information for the Choir Director of the church?
Does the Photographer and Videographer have to come visit in advance of the date?
When do we need to provide updated Baptismal Certificates? (We provided it originally at the interview a year+ ago)
How soon after the ceremony do we need to leave?
Any restrictions on who does the readings?
When would be able to insert the unity candle ceremony?
Is the rehersal the Friday before the wedding?
Post # 3
I am going to be following this thread, I get married in Toronto the weekend after you and am meeting with my priest soon as well!
a few more questions
– Can flower girls throw petals? (if you wanted to do that)
– Where can the photographers/videographers stand during the ceremony?
Post # 4
@TorontoBride2be: I got answers to those in advance it was:
– No she can not! Do not throw petals, rice, seeds, ANYTHING inside or outside of the church. Bubbles are okay on the asphalt but not anywhere else as it creates a slipping issue.
– They can simply “not be an intrustion” if the priest decides he’s annoying, he gets kicked out, otherwise, they’re good Kind of vauge but my photographer was okay with that.
Post # 5
I suppose it will depend on the parish, but I have never heard of a couple wriitng their own vows during a Catholic wedding. It’s prohibited at every parish I know of.
You could recite the vows as speeches at the reception instead.
Post # 6
@solidarity: Yeah I know its not common and the preist did say that given where I’d like to do them, it MAY be allowed. we would need to write them and submit them to the “head priest” of the church to see if he would approve it. Nothing we write could contradict the vows we already took though. Given that its SO rare/uncommon for this to be allowed if we can swing it I think it would be a great way to personalize it.
I’ll update with the rest of the answers soon, paper is in my car and I’m at work 🙁
Post # 7
@Elky: Someone posted in another thread that their priest was allowing them to do it. So you may be in luck!
Post # 8
Saving this thread for the future! I want my dog to be flower girl (she is therapy trained). Hoping it will be ok 🙂