I’ll play —
For those of you who eloped or had private wedding (or are going to)
Did you have any regrets afterwards? it hasn’t happened yet, we have 50 days left, but it’s been sort of weird, there are times I’ve felt I was sacrificing that “dream day” for a small/private ceremony, plus I think some family members were a little annoyed at our decision and didn’t understand that the few people we were inviting were in for a VERY laid back wedding weekend – actually our small family/best friends ceremony has ended up being about 50 people after complaints, but I’m posting because originally we had not intended on any of that.
Did you throw any kind of casual gathering later on? we will be, yes, we actually notified family on my side at least that my parents would be hosting a “reception” kind of deal – basically food and drinks at a local park, so everyone could get together and celebrate with us. it helped alot since we weren’t inviting alot of people and i felt bad for that. at the same time, though i am looking forward to this, i feel weird for having a gathering afterwards, but im sure it will be fine.
Had you ever had the big traditional wedding before? (possibly was your second marriage) nope. i always thought that i wanted one, and maybe after getting into the planning and coordinating of this small one, i realized there were alot of things about big weddings that i was missing out on (ie – no bridal party, no bridal shower, no bachelorette, no morning of mimosas and getting ready with my girls, no dj and dancing, no big dress, i cant have pro makeup and hair due to the time of our ceremony, lots of people that ive been invited to their wedding that i snubbed because our guest list was tiny, etc etc.)
What did you do for your elopement/private wedding? we are doing a sunrise (like 6:50 am!) ceremony on a beach.
How did you announce it to others? we kind of didnt? LOL People found out slowly that we had gotten engaged, we didn’t really go all out and post stuff online and all that, we called or texted our close family and friends and told them, etc. I realized how little of a deal we made of our engagement and our wedding when some people were like “wait, you’re getting married?!”.. so that was weird. but we wanted to keep it on the downlow so that people that we just weren’t inviting weren’t like “um, wheres our invite!?” — sometimes i think people will be too sensitive and not understand what we were wanting for our wedding and that we weren’t not inviting them for fun. we did however send invitations to people we 100% knew weren’t going to come because we felt it was only fair that they at least knew about it.
If it was a private wedding, did anyone attend? our family (ie parents and siblings) and best friends (about 3 each and their SO’s) — I think at the very least our parents would be LIVID if they didnt get to be there and we wanted our best friends there with us to celebrate with – granted, some may not come, but hopefully.
Love to hear about elopements and private weddings as this is what we are considering doing.
we had originally planned to get married a little over a year after our engagement. We got engaged in March and are getting married in October, so it all went quick. Mostly for me I was looking at beach wedding packages (aww yea the all inclusive stuff!) and was shocked by how cheap it was and realized it would be really nice to just get away with a few people and get married on a beach and not stress over it, plus though my parents weren’t worried about the financial aspect of the wedding, I didnt want to feel like I would be indebted to them forever over it (though it would never be like that, i felt bad for possibly planning something expensive), it was more of a less-stress, we’ve just bought a house, we’re happy together, lets just go do this our way. So we are. 6am ceremony, breakfast at a (maybe not so nice? not sure!) restaraunt nearby, then a day on the beach, and a bonfire that evening on the beach. Again, there have been times I felt I was missing out or sacrificing things. For instance, I could not find ONE vendor for hair and makeup since our ceremony was so early, so I’m DIY’ing though I really HATED to do that. It is what it is! Fingers crossed that this works out how we want it to.