(Closed) Questions on a couple’s wedding shower – kids, alcohol, and who pays?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@BlushingMonk: I would offer to pay for it, even if your Maid/Matron of Honor is helping to host it.  A traditional shower wouldn’t be nearly this expensive.  Also if you’re hosting an event, I don’t think people should have to pay for their own drinks. 

Post # 4
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

1) I don’t think you need to invite children. It’s a friday night event in a brewery and you are having an adult only reception and I usually only see kids at the showers who are at the wedding.

2) If I heard I was going to a brewery I would assume free alcohol. If you won’t be offering this then I would definetly let every know.

3) Usually the host pays for the event or figures out the details. I have seen it as the bride’s parents pay of the bridal party splits the costs. But I haven’t heard of the bride and groom paying for their own shower.

Have fun!

Post # 5
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you are worried about cost of the shower, could you have a shower at someones home? I think since the whole purpose of a shower is for people to bring gifts I dont think its right for them to have to buy their own drinks.

Post # 7
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

It sounds like a rehearsal dinner! Wow. Fancy. I would totally recommend you paying for this kind of shower. Most showers are held in the Maid/Matron of Honor living room.

Post # 9
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Kids are a buzz kill. Maybe offer to split it with your Maid/Matron of Honor and other bms/gms? If it’s split amongst like 10 people, it shouldn’t be a burden.

Post # 10
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@BlushingMonk: you can definitely do couples showers at people’s houses. I’m pretty sure Mrs Sunhat did that!!

At a house the boys can kind of get together and drink beer and watch tv or something while the girls open gifts.

 

Post # 11
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’m confused- it sounds like you are planning this? 

Post # 13
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@BlushingMonk: if Maid/Matron of Honor offered to throw this shower, then i wouldn’t get involved with the financial details or location details.  I think submitting your guest list to her and saying a general idea of what you had in mind would be appropriate.  i would also ask her what range of headcount she is comfortable with- 58 is a gigantic shower, couples or not.

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