(Closed) Questions on Catholic/Non-Catholic marriage prep

posted 6 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

That’s a great topic! I see posts around here all the time wondering about the rules. Personally, my biggest fear was encountering resistance to my marriage since my husband wasn’t Catholic. And at one church, the priest was rather rude about it. But the priest who actually married us was wonderful. Not sure if that helps, but it seems like a common concern from what I’ve seen on the Bee.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d love to hear others’ feedback on this topic. I’m Catholic and my fiancé is Presbyterian. We are recently engaged and are just getting started on our planning, so we haven’t talked to any priests yet.  But I’m concerned about how we can combine our two faiths during the ceremony. Can we have two officiants? Can we still have a mass? I don’t want to forego my traditions, but I want him to feel comfortable too.  Advice, please?!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d love to hear others’ feedback on this topic. I’m Catholic and my fiancé is Presbyterian. We are recently engaged and are just getting started on our planning, so we haven’t talked to any priests yet.  But I’m concerned about how we can combine our two faiths during the ceremony. Can we have two officiants? Can we still have a mass? I don’t want to forego my traditions, but I want him to feel comfortable too.  Advice, please?!

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hi, 

I’m catholic & Fiance is practicing Methodist. My dad was absolutely adamant about a church wedding and after he discussed with Fiance & Father-In-Law they were ok with it. Phew! The good news was that the church doesn’t require the promise to convert or even raise your children catholic. The non-catholic makes no promise at all, I will just promise to make every effort possible to raise ochild’s catholic, but i won’t be excommunicated if it means it would’ve been an issue. At our engaged encounter weekend one of the weekend leaders was an interfaith couple and they talked of their alternating weeks at each other’s church. Our priest is very good at not focusing on the catholic aspects of our ceremony during our talks, but more preparing us for marriage in general. I suggest a younger priest if you can find one, or one that is a bit more progressive, that way there’s no pressure on the  non-Catholic to convert and not making his/her family uncomfortable during the ceremony. I will let you know there are some paid priests out there that some archdiocese don’t recognize who will perform a catholic ceremony outside of the church, in a garden, beach, hotel. If you go this route some archdiocese won’t recognizthy our ceremony as a sacrament, and technically you won’t be able to receive communion. If you do this look into it carefully if you are a strict catholic. If not, and family/FI are ok with at least a priest this may be a good option. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MissMaryMc:  

I am Methodist, my Fiance is Catholic.  He has been married before and the annulment process seems to a long drawn out process, one that I will do JUST because I love my Fiance so much I cannot ask him to change his religion for me nor would he ask that of me. I was not raised Catholic and was previously married in the Assembly of God Church.  I have to go through the annulment process even though I am NOT planning to become Catholic.  We have agreed to attend both church on a rotating basis and so far this is working out.  We have children and it is very important to us each of us to keep our religion.  I was fearful of what his family would say about us getting married in the Methodist Church, he was not because he is in his 50’s and says they will get over it. Actually they were very understanding about it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@IslandGirl0210:  yes to both! though your Fiance and non catholic guests can not take communion so you may want to think about this. I have the same issue. Im catholic and he is a PK (preachers kid)! so of course his dad will be a co-celebrant. we have chosen to not have communion and this is not rare is marriages between 2 catholics today so it is not going to sacrifice tradition either.

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