Post # 1
So right now the fiance and i are composing our wedding guest list and we arent seeing eye to eye much on it. I feel that he shouldnt invite his friends that arent in his life but were in the past. Its like where are they now? the 2nd they heard we were planning a wedding thats when they seemed to try to get in contact with him as well as wanting to get to know me. As for me i do have friends that do the same crap popping in their heads asking when we are planning the wedding and if they are invited. I dont know if we should invite those that show their faces on occasion.. what do you bees think?
Post # 3
@sweetlikcake: I’d say, first make your list of all of the people that you both really want at your wedding. Then, if you still have space, and you want to, invite those other friends.
Some of them may really want to reconnect, and some might just want to be included in the party. But the bottom line is, it’s your and your FI’s wedding, and you should invite those people that are important in your life.
You could always have an A and B list, and put those fair weather friends on the B list.
Post # 4
I’d do what drummergirl suggested–at least first figure out how many seats you’re talking about before you start duking it out–you might find out that you have room for everyone and there’s no need to barter.
But the other thing to consider is that guys tend to be different from girls–they don’t really need to get in touch with each other all the time to maintain friendships. My Darling Husband hardly ever talks to his two best friends (who both live in different states), but gets on like gangbusters when they do see each other, once in a blue moon.
Post # 5
@drummergirl: that is such a great idea! 😀 its so hard to pick and choose who you want to attend while also thinking about your budget. I just dont want there to be any hard feelings towards the ones that arent invited.
@JennyW1: Yea my fiance tries to reconnect and they are non responsive but when they hear from other friends we are tying the knot it seems thats when they see how he is doing.. I feel bad at times as he has said he doesnt have friends here (we live in LA and they live in the OC which isnt far) but they never wanna meet half way or they never have time to hang out..