Post # 1
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Bumble bee
So my husband and I have been together for a while… pushing a decade.
The other day I saw a picture of his exgirlfriend, and she was wearing a piece of jewelry that i know my husband bought for her when they were together.
I started wondering how common this is. Any jewelry I received from an ex was sold, and I certainly never wore any of it post breakup.
Curious to see other opinions.
Did you continue to wear jewelry from an ex?
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
If I really liked it, why not? Usually the jewelry bought by an ex would have been picked out by me anyway.
Girl how hard did you have to squint to see a piece of jewelry he bought her in that picture? Lmao!
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
janedw : I still wear jewlery bought for me by exes.
Unless it was an e-ring, I don’t get what the big deal is. It was a gift, and if I liked it, of course I’m going to keep it.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
lifeisbeeutiful : well it was a picture of her nail polish and it was a ring. A mututal friend showed me (we were talking about nailpolish colors and she was referencing the color)
teamroro : – I’m don’t get what the big deal is either… I was not upset about it, I was just curious as to whether or not other people still wore jewelry from an ex …
Post # 5
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Honey bee
I didn’t really like any of the jewelry my exH bought me, but if I liked it, I would continue to wear it.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I don’t have any jewellery from an ex, nor do I wear much jewellery in general so I can’t answer this question with regards to what I *do*, but honestly, if I was the jewellery-wearing type and I had a beautiful necklace or other piece of fine jewellery, I’d probably like to wear it on occassion, regardless of where/who it came from. The only jewellery I think is off-limits after a break up is an engagement ring. That should be given back and/or sold.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
I have a pair of diamond earrings I received from an ex, the one I was dating when I met my husband. I wore them for years until my husband bought me a large pair. Now my daughter wears them. It’s just rocks/jewelry. And it never bothered my husband that I wore the earrings, he’s too secure for that.
Post # 9
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Honey bee
However, I did trade in my wedding band for a pair of diamond earrings and I wear them every day.
Post # 10
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Worker bee
Dear Bee, it really depends on each person. I don’t typically assign that much meaning to items, so I sometimes wear jewelry/accesories that were given to me by my former boyfriends just because they’re nice/valuable items that I love (the look/style/design, etc). Some of those items were gifted to me years ago that I no longer even think about the fact that they were given to me by an ex. I just enjoy them for what they are: nice pieces of jewelry/fashion accesories. My husband doesn’t care about that, either.
P.S.: How did you even come across a picture of your husband’s ex? Are you guys still in the same social circles? Were you merely “spying” on her?
Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
Sparkles are sparkles! I don’t have any jewellery from an ex but I’d probably keep/wear it if I liked it.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana
I pawned everything my first husband gave me because I was in pain looking at it at the time. I kept everything from my second husband (we split amicably) and even kept my e-ring, replacing the diamond with a sapphire so I could wear it as a RHR. I had the diamond set in a necklace I’ll eventually gift my daughter. But I wear that too. It’s just stuff, I don’t feel sentimental about it. But I love jewelry.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
is102017 : Same circle. We were all going to a wedding and I was getting my nails done with a mututal friend of ours. She was showing me a picture of the “ex’s” nails because she wanted a color similar.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
janedw : Just saw your update. Was it an engagement ring? If not, I don’t see an issue with it. If it was, though, she shouldn’t be wearing it… buuuut there isn’t any point in making a big deal out of it. Personally, I think you’re probably better off not following her on social media.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
I still wear jewelry my ex-husband bought for me.