Questions regarding an Ex.

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 16
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Busy bee

I lost a really nice necklace my ex got me but if I still had it, yeah. 

Post # 19
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Worker bee

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janedw :  Ok…in that case, I do think it’s a bit weird. I’d definitely feel a bit uncomfortable wearing something an ex gave me if I’m still in the same social circle as him (and his wife’s), only because mutual friends would know he gave that item and I’d be afraid of having people speculating (or of running into him and his wife while wearing that item). I still wear jewelry given to me by my exes, but I also know the chances of running into them or someone who knew them are almost non-existent. So, due to the fact that you guys are all in the same social circle, I amend my original reply. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I have a ring from someone I was briefly engaged to. He demanded the ring when we broke up, then gave it back to me almost a decade later. I wear it once in a while cause it’s really pretty. 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

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anedw :  Hey bee! I made a post/poll on this topic a while back that you might be interested in: https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/do-youwould-you-keep-jewelry-from-an-ex-poll/

In my case, I still have jewelry from a long ago ex in my jewelry box, but I don’t wear it. The pieces are gold & semiprecious stones, so definitely too valuable to toss and also more valuable than I’d casually throw into a Goodwill pile. I’ll either eventually get around to selling it, or maybe gift it to future children or my niece down the line. I did give a couple pieces away to a close friend who admired them. 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I don’t wear that much jewelry, though if the occasion arises, and jewelry from an ex goes with my outfit, then why not?  Plus, like PP mentioned, I’m unlikely to toss a Tiffany’s necklace into a donation pile.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I keep everything and wear it unless it has a special romantic tie: i.e. old engagement ring. 

If I got rid of everything, I’d have two pieces of jewelry.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

No, I’d feel weird wearing something given to me by an ex. I can tell you my partner would not like it, either. It feels like it’d be disrespectful to him, in a way.

I did keep a pretty diamond and emerald ring a long ago ex had given me, but I only kept it because, diamond and emerald ring. I just kept it in a drawer, I never wore it. I finally sold it last year, and I felt that was the right choice. For me, at least. I get that not everyone attaches sentimental feelings to an object, and that’s cool too.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

Obviously gave back the engagement ring my ex bought me (pretty sure he proposed with it to the woman he was cheating on me with) and he also bought me a diamond anniversary band that I gave to my SIL. Depending on the sentimentality of the piece, I don’t see any issue with wearing it after a breakup. I don’t put much stock in “stuff” though and don’t get hung up it. I’m one of those people that will upgrade a wedding set and not even think about the sentimental aspect, so I guess it depends on the person too. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee

I’ve kept old jewelry that I’ve gotten from exes. Not if the jewelry just reminded me of something sad, and nog my old engagement ring. But other jewelry I’ve recieved? Of courde I’ve kept it! I don’t see no reason to get rid of it just out of principle.

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