(Closed) Questions to ask potential officiant?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

well there are the logistics…

-what time do you arrive/ leave?

-how many weddings do you book a day?

-do you customize ceremonies?

-what if you get ill/ sick?

-do you provide speakers/ microphone

-what will you wear? etc…


then there is the person…

-what do you normally say?

-will you personalize?

for this she mostly asked us questions like why are you getting married, what do you think about marriage, and we just kinda “talked” they’ll tell you about their marriages, some experiences they’ve had etc. And if you both see eye to eye and agree, then it’s probably a good match 🙂

Post # 5
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Are there any important things to include (or not include) in your ceremony? I would add…

— Are there any restrictions about what you will/won’t read?

— Will you provide us with a copy of our ceremony as a keepsake?

— Do you need amplification? If yes, who will provide it?

— How many meetings will we have between now and the day of?

— Will you accommodate a rehearsal?

For us, we wanted a good public speaker, experienced in wedding officiating, someone fully accepting of our secular ceremony (some try to push a prayer on you), and one who supports marriage equality (we are having him read a Statement of the Right of Marriage, written by me, that loosely addresses our support of our same-sex friends and their right to wed). 

Also, be sure your personalities are compatible. I’d suggest meeting in person if it’s at all possible, even if it’s just once.

Post # 7
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t mind sharing at all! Our officiant will just read it as part of the ceremony, and I tried to write it so that the people who need to understand would, and the few people who disagree wouldn’t even know what was said unless they were *really* listening. 😀

“Statement of the Right of Marriage

Groomname and Bridename believe that it is a privilege and a right to make a commitment that binds both their hearts and their lives, and that this honor should be universally upheld by any who choose to enter into it, and should not be denied by any who attempt to oppose it. In love there is hope, and in marriage the foundation for hope in the future.”


Post # 9
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Ms Bookworm: Thank you! Non-preachy was definitely the goal, since we aren’t trying to shove our beliefs down our guests’ throats at all, just acknowledge them. 

Post # 10
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Here are some of the questions I recommend my couples to ask:

  • What is your fee to officiate our wedding?
  • What does your fee include?
  • How long have you been a marriage officiant?
  • What are your time restrictions for the ceremony?
  • Will there be any extra fees if the ceremony starts late?
  • Can we see your credentials, proof that you are licensed in the state?
  • How far in advance do we need to book our wedding? What would the deposit be?
  • What is your cancellation policy?
  • How many weddings have you performed in the recent past?
  • Do you charge an extra fee for rehearsal?
  • Are you available for the date of the rehearsal?
  • Do you need any audio/visual equipment for the ceremony?


Post # 12
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ms Bookworm:  I was very shocked at the cost of officiants. I honestly thought $250 max for our 15 minutes ceremony and rehearsal but, boy was I wrong. I did find a price close to what I had in mind but, it took a lot of time and research,

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