(Closed) question/vent about MOH’s and bridal shower…

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, I don’t think that’s a bad thing. My BMs totally failed on planning my bachelorette party, it was a disaster. After that experience, I’d say let other people do the prompting to push things forward in case without that it never gets done. And since it’s your mom they may be a little annoyed, but they’re not going to say anything ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As long as it doesn’t come from you directly, I think it is fine. Your MOHs might just need a gentle reminder of their duties, and maybe some help too. And as bakerella said, there isn’t much they can say!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d try to stay out of this as much as possible. Although throwing a shower is often undertaken by the Maid/Matron of Honor, it’s not required. Anyone who wants to can throw you a shower, or not, and if nobody steps up, that’s that. If your other BMs want to have a shower for you, then they should bring it up with the MOH’s themselves to see if they’ll help, or else plan something on their own.

Post # 8
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@linguo42: Good idea! Maybe put a bug in another BMs ear about the shower? You still have some time, it’s only January. When did you want to have your shower?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I think having your Mom forward the names and contact information of your friends, etc. was perfectly normal.  As a matter of fact, that is what my Mom did for mine.  I would definitely take a backseat to the planning process.  I’m sure your girls will pull through.  Maybe they’re planning a surprise one OR they’re waiting until a couple months prior to the big day! 

Post # 12
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@nicole18ashley: Agreed! I would think that for a shower, a month or two out is probably appropriate so you’re still a ways off. Maybe get the prompting started in Mid March if you haven’t heard any rumblings about it through the grapevine ๐Ÿ˜‰

ETA – By prompting I mean, get your mom or other BMs to ask around. Not by you.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Trust me girl, you’re fine!  That was not tacky at all!  I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding where the bride was a control freak and bridezilla about that kind of stuff.  I was able to keep the bachelorette party a surprise, but she b#[email protected]^ed about me not telling her all the time.  She was always like “this is what I want you to do, so do it”, and frankly, that really offended me.  I was really excited to do those things for her, and I was upset that she was being so ugly about it all.  Basically, the shower boiled down to: she threw it for herself, but she needed someone to play “hostess” so that she doesn’t look bad.  She even had the audacity to tell me that I had to give her a daily update on what things had been bought off her registry!  You are a saint compared to this girl!

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