Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
So when I was trying on dresses the size 12s (from the designer of my dress) seemed to fit me best. They still needed to be taken in quite a bit around my waist and bust (which apparently measures more of a size 6/8) but they were just right for my booty, I was able to sit and move comfortably. The seamstress did my measurements and said she had to recommend size 14 for me, which is what the sample size of my dress was. It was super baggy and she even pinned 2in less of fabric to see how it would feel in a 12 and it was fine to me. She measured my butt 43.5 inches, but when I measure it myself I get 42- I honestly think she was in a rush and didn’t have the tape straight.
I know it is easier to take a dress in, but isn’t there a limit to how much you can? My dress has a lot of lace appliqués that would have to be removed and put back on, and I just imagine that would be more complicated to do, but maybe there isn’t that much of a difference between 12/14 to worry about that? I will also have to take the dress elsewhere for alterations… I would feel better about going with her recommendation if I knew she was the one actually doing it.
If I let them know by tomorrow I can change the size I ordered.. what do you guys think? Would there be enough difference between 12/14 to worry about it?
Post # 2
When I was buying my wedding dress, my seamstress said that generally dress can be taken in around 6 sizes without compromising the structure and look of the dress – obviously that is just a guideline though, and depends on the dress, type, shape etc. Personally, if it was a fitted dress, I would go for the larger size because you definitely don’t want your butt bursting out of the dress or splitting a seam on the day of! If it’s a wider skirt, then you can probably size down and it will be fine. Also, were you wearing the undergarments you will be wearing at the wedding when you were measured? Because that can change the size of things a bit, so if you are worried then a good pair of spanx under the dress might help!
Post # 3
Fabric stretches. It is why your jeans may feel just tight or a bit right first thing, but feel a little loose by the end of the day. Unless your store launders the dresses every night, they’ve been tried on countless times by people of varying sizes. So a 12 may have stretched to feel more like a 14.
You should never go by sizes. Every designer may have variations in their sizing charts so you should go based on the measurements. One measurement could be a 12 for one designer and a 16 for another designer. So go based off the measurements and the sizing chart for the designer, not based on how a stretched out sample fits. General rule of thumb is buy the size for your largest measurement and take in everywhere else.
And if you are concerned she took your measurements wrong, go back and have them retaken or go to an independent seamstress/tailor to take your measurements. I would trust that over measurements taken on your own – tapes slip, you can’t contort enough to accurately read or assure it is precisely in the exact spot it needs to be, there can be a tendency to pull too tight, etc.
Post # 4
Always go with measurements not sizes for wedding dresses. Get the measurements re-taken if you want, but I’d go with the 14 & get it taken in.
Post # 5
hennelady : are you sure you’re measuring your hips correctly? Many women measure too high when doing it themselves, when an accurate hip measurement is around the fullest part of you (which is likely lower than your actual hip bones). If you don’t think she measured correctly, I’d find a third party. Go to a bridal store or other seamstress and have them take your measurements. You should always order according to measurements and not how it feels in the store, as sample dresses stretch out.
Post # 6
I don’t know why, but it feels like they are always trying to sell a size up.
Obviously everyone’s experience is different, but when I was purchasing my dress I was told I could measure for a 6 but that it was going to be too tight/uncomfortable and they talked me into getting an 8 and having it taken in.
It ended up having a ton of extra material and needed to be taken in 3 times. In the end, I’m still not totally satisfied with the way it sat on my hips but I don’t stress over it because you can’t really tell in photos. Long story short, if I could go back and do it over I’d have just ordered the size 6 and it probably would have needed minimal alterations.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
evilqueenkarly : 6 sizes down is a lot! I guess I’m worried about the particular beading on my dress. It has a really low illusion back, which showed the underwear I was wearing, so I haven’t figured out what I would wear under it. They were saying once it’s fitted to me it won’t hang quite so low. And yes it’s a fitted dress, lol I definitely don’t want my butt bursting out but there is a little bit of extra seam to take it out if it ended up being too small…
annabananabee : right, I wasn’t taking the stretching into consideration. I tried on samples from the same designer with the same size charts, BUT they were also different fabrics so they might have been stretchier. I need to consider that too.
catskillsinjune : I did measure around the biggest part of my butt. I’ll have my aunt do it for me tonight to see what she gets, she has experience in this type of thing.
rachelmichelle : I think the reason is because there is not a lot lot they can do to let dresses out, since the seams only have a little bit of extra allowance… and you don’t want to end up in a dress you can’t even get on. But yes this is exactly what I’m afraid of, I want it to be as fitted as I can get it around my waist so all my curves are visible!