Post # 1
Ok bees, I am a pretty laid back bride (or at least I am compared to many) so when I tell my BMs to wear any black strappy/peeptoe shoe they already own it shouldn’t be to difficult right? WRONG! Two of my BM’s (1 my sister, 1 his) are insisting on wearing closed toed shoes and pantyhose……..one of them even suggested that she wear some grey shoes she had from a previous wedding she was in…….Ummmm no. Sorry I already emailed you guys about my minimal shoe requirements, please just go to target/payless/friend’s closet and get some damn black, strappy/peeptoe shoes!!!!!!
Thanks for the vent bees. Am I being rediculus? Seriously, please tell me!
Post # 3
not rediculous! it’s not like you asked them to spend $60 on new shoes! grrr
Post # 4
Not rediculous! That is not a hard request to fullfil at all! I’m telling my Bridesmaid or Best Man they have to find shoes in this purple color i have! Good luck girls!!!! 😉
Post # 5
@STL: Semi-related but if they are set on wearing pantyhose, HUE makes pantyhose that you can wear with peep toes! They’re called toe-less tights (I think) I used to wear them when I worked at a stuffy corporate job where pantyhose were required!
Post # 6
@hotchild: Thanks for the tip! I will suggest those if the one continues insisting on pantyhose
Post # 7
I don’t think you are being ridiculous at all. That being said though, I want my girls to wear exactly what I want, so I purchased their shoes for them. I went to the Nina site and got them on clearance. Also, about the pantyhose, I have also worn the toeless ones when I worked for corporate America. I would let them wear toeless hose.
Post # 8
what the heck? I was thrilled to hear black shoes / silver shoes for 2 weddings i was in – woohoo! no new purchases! your girls are being odd. Is it cold where you live? Will you be outside for photos? if not, i think you can push back on the open toes thing. if you live in alaska, maybe let them wear tights.
Post # 9
Aw, I feel for the one who wants to wear pantyhose. I’ve got some noticeable scars on my shins and NEVER want to go bare-legged. The peeptoe pantyhose are a good tip.
Also, why not find a pair of shoes that you have in mind from payless or target and send them all the link? If they’re cheap enough, you can even buy them for the two who don’t want to invest in peep toes. Then they really haven’t got anything to complain about. Unless their feet hurt 😉
Post # 10
frugal_faye – rock those legs! If anyone asks or looks at your shins, tell them you thwarted a terrorist plot or something with your karate skills or something. panty hose are so itchy and scratchy and get caught in fingernails and keys and fabrics and everything, i can’t imagine anyone wearing without a necessity, like a job that requires it, or a really itchy wool skirt.
I agree with your suggestion too to just buy the ones u want them to wear, OP. You can get some really wonderfully priced black shoes for less, since they’re so easy to find.
Post # 11
I’m not sure how to feel about this. Personally, I love strappy shoes (and don’t really dig panyhose with them.) But if someone has good reason for wanting to wear hose or closed toed shoes, I honestly think that should trump the strappies. You might want to ask what the problem is. Gray shoes?….No. That Bm can suck it up and buy a cheap pair in black. But I’m just wondering if some of this isn’t about money or being cold. Like Faye said. Maybe someone has come kind of scar. Does this Bm have deformed toes or something?
Post # 12
Neither Bridesmaid or Best Man have deformed feet or weird scars. As for being cold, yes the wedding is in March but we will be inside the whole time…..
Post # 13
I think you’re being somewhat reasonable. However, for my friend’s wedding, I told her she better just say any black shoes. I’ve been a bride so I understand but as a bridesmaid, I would never buy shoes.
Is it really that important that they have peep toe shoes? Can’t they just wear whatever kind of black shoes they have? For me personally, I don’t like to wear peeptoe shoes.
Believe me, guests are not going to care what kind of shoes the BMs wear! 🙂
Post # 14
I don’t think you are being unreasonable. It is something they can wear again, plus it is not like you are requiring them to buy the same shoe (which may not be their style, within their price range, or not comfortable for them).
Post # 15
@simmonsgirl: I am not requireing it to be peeptoe. ANY black strappy or even peeptoe shoe. I simply do not want closed toe shoes bc their dress is a flowy on and closed toe would look odd.
Post # 16
I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all. I think it may help them out if you offered them a few inexpensive examples online. Charlotte Russe, Bealls, Target, even Payless all offer those types of shoes for pretty cheap.
I bought my BM’s their shoes because I found the exact ones I wanted for them at a downtown store for $14! I just figured it’d be easier for me to buy them as a gift then send them all downtown. Maybe you can do the same, and just have them pay you back?