Post # 1
Hey all you married ladies I have a question for you. How many people did you invite and how many actually came? You can give me the actual or percentage. I am really curious about this. My parents and I disagree on how many will actually come.
Post # 3
Hi! We invited 110 adults and 10 children and we had 98 adults and 4 children attend! They were all family so we knew they would come 🙂
Post # 4
We invited 68 guests and they ALL rsvp’d yes, although 3 were noshows on the wedding day.
Post # 6
This depends on SO many factors, including how far your guests have to travel, whether or not you’re getting married at a busy time of year or on a holiday weekend, the day of the week on which you’re marrying, what type of wedding you’re having, etc.
I had a formal, evening wedding on the Friday of Memorial Day weekend at a location that was at least semi destination for everyone, including myself (1.5 hours away) and my DH (three hours away.) Most of our family traveled three to four hours, with some coming from many states away.
I invited a total of, I believe, 212 people (including all of those I invited as soon as I began receiving regrets from the first round of invitations), and we had 148 who actually attended. We had 150 “will attend” responses, but one couple had a family emergency two days before the wedding and were not able to attend.
Post # 7
You should always plan that everyone is going to come… so if you have a venue maximum or a budget maximum, that’s how many you should invite. It’s very hard to predict who will say yes and who will not. I am actually getting nervous myself because I’d prefer about 120 but we’re inviting 190… 70 is a huge drop-off though so we’ll likely end up with 150, but should all 190 want to come, they can and we and our venue will accomodate them.
Post # 8
We invited 51 and 49 RSVP’d yes.
Post # 9
I wouldnt mind if everyone wanted to come. But I dont think family I have never met will fly from CA to NC! I have around 230 on my invite list and I want around 150 there….we will see!!! lo
Post # 10
First Wedding… (circa 1980)
My Ex-H and I were fresh-faced Uni Grads. It was a BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding with all the trimmings.
It was also the first Wedding in both our immediate family and with my first cousins.
We invited aprox 125 People, and had just over 100 in attendance. So approx 80%
This time round…
Mr TTR & I were both Encores. We Eloped, and only had a Back Home Reception (Evening Party) for Friends & Family.
Our turn out was aprox 70%… of Attendees versus Invites sent
But I attribute the lower numbers in part to the weather…
My first Wedding Reception was in a good weather season, this Reception was in the middle of a very cold & snowy Canadian Winter.
Hope this helps (some),
Post # 11
Interesting, I’m curious to see more answers.
We don’t have our RSVPs yet, but this is my current thinking:
2 of us
23 guests for sure
10 most likely
13 probably not
4 definitely not
= 59 possible
Post # 12
We invited somewhere around 120 and 100 came.
Post # 13
Omg, my Mom is driving me nuts about this issue! We invited 115 people total, as of now by the RSVP’s we have 78 people coming and a few of them are iffy! We have to have a final headcount by Teusday, several people we can’t get in contact with and they haven’t sent rsvp’s back. Quite a few people we never got addresses for but I’m sure they’ve heard through the grapevine that we are getting married and when and might possibly show up. So my Mom is wanting to say our final headcount is 70 instead of 78 cause there will be alot of kids who don’t really eat a whole lot and she still thinks that some may not show! My thinking is that we should probably say ten over in case we have a few stragglers come in! lol She doesn’t want any extra cost then what she has to so I haven’t really made it too far in the argument with the woman that’s paying for everything! I would say it’s better to have more than enough than to be short, but I can’t tell that to my mother! lol Hope you can find some common ground with your parents! Good luck!
Post # 14
@blondiegirl: I have been in several arguements with my parents about guests! lol I told them 150 max. I about shit when I saw their list of people they wanted to invite….50 couples…thats 100 people… NO! lol So I added those people to my list anyway equalling to 230 people. My dad says only 50% will show…I disagree I believe 80-90% will show. IMO people are more likely to go to a wedding than to a regular get together.
Post # 15
@jesssamesssa: Yeah, my Mom and I have been doing nothing but argueing! She had so many people that she had to invite that I don’t even know and then some of my people that I’m not sure about she just wants to totally omit them. It’s like we’ve been planning her wedding! I would definitely not say that only 50% will show that’s pretty low, I would say around 70% t0 80%. It all kind of depends on the people you are inviting, how distant they are and so on.
Post # 16
We invited 146, knowing that a good chunk of DH’s family that lives across the country probably wouldn’t make it. 92 RSVP’s yes, and 81 actually showed up on the day.