Post # 1
Working on my thank you cards, it’s been about 2 weeks since the wedding. I have a couple of questions. Do you give a thank you card to someone who attended but did not bring a gift? What if the person who did not bring a gift was in the wedding party, do they then get a thank you card? One of the GMs did not give a gift, DH wants to give him a thank you card (he did get a GMs gift right after the wedding ended but not a card). Also a few of DH’s relatives gave us a gift with 2 cards in it (wrapped in with the gift) he says the gift is only from 2 of them, I say it doesn’t matter and that all of them must be thanked for that gift since the cards were wrapped with it we should assume it is from all of them. Who is right lol?
Post # 3
Yes you should send a thank you if they didn’t bring a gift. Just thank them for sharing the day with you and making it special. And yes, thank you card for the member of the party who didn’t give anything. I figure it’s always better to err on the side of caution and send a thank you! No one ever complained of someone being too polite but they sure complain about rude people!
Post # 4
@Cheeks225: Thank you for answering actually it was on here that I read that sending a thank you card to someone who didn’t bring a gift was rude. I read that even if you are just thanking them for attending it can read as you reminding them to give you a gift or something. That’s why I am asking, I find that I get a lot of conflicting responses about this subject.
Post # 5
I’ve heard from both sides of it – I think it’s entirely up to you. If it’s mostly family members, ask your mom or dad their thoughts.
I honestly don’t think it will matter too much either way if you do or don’t send them to non-gift givers.
Post # 6
Well it really depends who you ask. According to Emily Post, you only send thank you’s to those who gave you a gift (in addition to your attendants, vendors, host/hostess, and anyone who did anything special for you).
For those who attended but did not give a gift along the way, the reception is the “thank you” for sharing the special day with you.
Post # 7
@breadandbutterflies: Thank you notes are for gifts only. You have already thanked the guests in person (I hope) at the wedding for coming, as well as hosting them and giving them your hospitality.
Sending notes to people who didn’t gift can be seen as a hint to remember to gift you.
Post # 8
@andielovesj: Sweet. Thanks for this- I have a family friend who just asked this same question like two weeks ago and I was like must hunt on the Bee! You’ve given some solid advice on other posts as well so I’m going to tell her this.
Post # 9
THis thread is really helpful becazuse was wondering the same thing but I think I’m just going to send thank you cards to everyone who attended