Post # 1
long story short.. my new fiancee and i have been together for 5 yrs… we got engaged in June… and now set our wedding for Sept 15th… due to upcoming military reasons…
We have done EVERYTHING except a cake and we sent out the invites 2 days ago… We are doing something FUN!!! We are having our SMALL ceremony on a Boston Duck Tour (google it if you arent from around here!! ITS COOL ) and having a large reception for all family and friends after…
Is it bad i feel kind of GUILTY i cant invite everyone to the ceremony?? The boat only holds 30 people so we invited obviously our parents, grandparents, small wedding party, and aunts and uncles… with a few friends..
I have a strange extended family that i just feel some people will get upset over it and thats something i dont want to deal with on my wedding day…
Post # 3
@jennydafafa33: People are always going to get upset at something. I think its a really cool idea and you should just run with it. I hope these things are safer than they use to be my home town had companies like this and they were shut down for a while after a major incident.
Post # 4
Believe me, even if you invite the whole family, someone will have something to complain about. You guys chose to have a small ceremony for personal reasons and having a reception for the family afterwards is a great way to include the extended family.
Post # 5
@jennydafafa33: You already know this, but you can’t please everybody! As long as it is what both of you want, that’s really all that matters. I am having a quick wedding just like you, and you gotta do what ya gotta do!
Post # 6
I only had my kids, mom and dad, Boyfriend or Best Friend, husband’s siblings at our wedding. We invited the rest of the bunch to the reception. I loved the intimacy of the wedding and will never regret it. Most people are waiting to get to the reception anyway. I think it is a good decision.
Post # 7
@jennydafafa33: You can’t please everyone. I think you’re doing the right thing. If people ask/get mad, just tell them it was more important that you got married (for military reasons) vs. waiting to have the perfect party or whatever. If they don’t understand, that’s their problem.
Post # 8
I agree with everyone so far: people who are going to be upset about it and tell you so are probably the same people who would have found something to fuss about even if they were invited. In putting together my guest list, I kept asking myself “Ok, are you inviting this person because you want them at your wedding, or just because cause they might be upset if you don’t invite them?”
Also, I love the Duck Tour idea! And a larger reception later is a very nice gesture as well.
Post # 9
i agree that people will always get upset, but the ones who really care about you won’t. so invited you really love and know are always there for you, and forget the rest! some friends got married last year and they had a small wedding for 50 people, then after the honey moon they had a meet and greet mr & mrs griffin! it was fun and about 200 people showed up. i think everyone felt included with that…