(Closed) Quiet Civil Wedding and planning Church Wedding

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My problem with this idea begins with keeping the civil marriage a secret.  If you are open and honest with your families and friends and invite them to the blessing of your marriage, then you are fine.

Post # 5
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hi Laura,

 I’m having a convalidation ceremony this year. when we got “married”, it was just husband and I since we did it for legal reasons and had to be done quickly. We decided to marry in the Catholic church because we now have two children and we want to raise them in the Cathlic faith. We attend mass on Sundays and because my marriage is not valid in the Church, i cannot recieve communion and I don’t want to live our married life this way. When we went to our church however, our Parish explained that this IS our wedding, a marriage for society or the legal system does not provide God’s blessing therefore it is not recognized. Instead of us having to go through Pre-Cana however, we were required to complete 4 biblical retreats and one “Marriage Dynamics” retreat. As far as making the right decision? I believe i am. our family considers this our “real” wedding and are being very supportive. There’s always gonna be that family / friend that refers to your wedding as a “vow renewal”, “blessing” or what-not but I think it’s a cultural difference not everyone can understand. Good luck with your planning process. enjoy it. 🙂


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