Post # 1
So Fiance has a college buddy staying over for the weekend. I try to be pretty laid back – I know that they’re going to drink and carry on and I don’t really care. We live in the middle of nowhere. Literally it takes us 40 minutes to get to a grocery store (just for reference here). So when people come to visit there’s no “going out” if you know what I mean. Anyway, they start up drinking and playing loud music. I say nothing until about midnight when I go to bed. I ask Fiance nicely to please keep the music down (they were sitting AT the computer where the speakers are, no need for it to be blasting) and not to leave a mess for me to wake up to in the morning. Oh, and tell buddy to please sleep in one of our THREE guest bedrooms and not on the couch because I’d really like to get up and work out in the morning.
They managed to keep the music down to a reasonable level so I had no problem falling asleep at around 12:30-1:00. But then, around 3:00 AM Fiance comes stumbling into our room and wakes me up. Fine, whatever. I head downstairs to the bathroom and he follows me (downstairs, not into the bathroom). When I come out I tell him again nicely to please keep it down, because the volume of the music had somehow crept up to earsplitting since I had gone to bed.
Music remains at an earsplitting level. Mind you, we have a FOUR BEDROOM house. It’s not like I share a wall with the living room – two doors and an entire level separate me from them. JUST as I’m getting to sleep, Fiance comes in AGAIN and gets in bed. Then 5 minutes later he decides he wants to go back downstairs. (Music still blaring). At this point I’m quite annoyed. I go downstairs and ask buddy (who’s playing DJ now) to keep it down. I ask to talk to Fiance quickly, he won’t. I say fine, either come to bed and STAY in bed or find somewhere else to sleep. He comes up about 10 minutes later. Just as I’m getting ready to fall asleep AGAIN, music volume goes way back up. Uh…now it’s just buddy downstairs by himself. Shut the F up! So I make Fiance go BACK downstairs and tell him to turn the effing music down (apparently when I asked he thought I meant only temporarily?
So, at this point it’s almost 4 AM and of course now I can’t get back to sleep until almost 5. Puppy wakes me up at 7 to go outside and eat and now I’m up for good.
Wake up to dirty dishes and food all over.
Oh, and buddy is passed out on the couch. I’m so tempted just to put my workout DVD in and crank it up anyway.
So now I’m sitting here working on our wedding website and writing about how Fiance proposed to me…I figure maybe if I write about happy things I won’t be as annoyed with him when he wakes up.
Whew, that was long. How is your weekend going so far?
Post # 3
lol, what a mess! Good Luck, I say turn up that work out DVD and have fun with it 🙂
Post # 4
@Future Mrs K: I agree. I say turn on the workout dvd and crank it up really loud. That way they will know how you felt last night 🙂
Post # 5
Ohh, I’d definitely turn it up!
Post # 6
They were being really inconsiderate to you. I’d have probably marched over to the computer, pulled the plug out of the wall, and said, “Party’s over. Be quiet and go to bed. NOW!” In the morning, I’d bitch both of them out over the dirty dishes.
Oh, and college buddy would be sent home and never invited to stay over again.
Post # 7
Have fun with him. its time for a hangover wakeup. I also vote that the dog jumps on him and licks him till he wakes up.
Post # 9
@naturalysam: “its time for a hangover wakeup.” Haha! That’s exactly what I was thinking!
I say, go ahead and put your work out DVD in. If it wakes him up, it wakes him up. He chose to pass out on the couch when you specifically told him to choose a bedroom.
I’ve gone through things like this with my Fiance (up late, loud music, mess everywhere the next morning), and the best way to let him know you don’t appreciate it is when he’s sober. Drunk FIs don’t care about cleanliness or keeping quiet. Annoying, but true.
Also, don’t touch any of those dishes! Your Fiance dirtied them, he can clean them. 😛
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
Ooooh, I’d be doing the hangover wakeup too. I actually watched my aunt do the best hangover wakeup I’ve ever seen — my uncle was passed out on the couch so she opted to start vaccuming, right next to his face. 🙂
Post # 11
Make him do the work out with you! ahahaha.
I have had to deal with this a couple times but the times that it happens are so few and far in between that I try not to get upset. I see that Fiance is having so much fun with his friend but it’s hard for me to seeth inside. haha. They were being inconsiderate but see how guys get excited and they turn into 10 year olds you have to tell a million times to be quiet. Be thankful this was just a one time thing and not a regular occurence!
I get to deal with this weekend with my neighbour downstairs who is having 6 uni buddies coming to stay for St. Patty’s day. I know it’s in a different apartment, but this condo building is not totally sound proof. The next weekend I get to deal with this in my own home when my Fiance has his friend from college comes over. He’s not bad, but he does sit on the couch all the time and it’s annoying.
Post # 12
So I took the high road and took my pup for a hike while they slept. If this goes on again tonight (buddy is here for the whole weekend) they’ll both be out on the porch, hah!
Post # 13
Make them do the cleaning up! They made the mess–it’s not your job to pick up after them. If they trash the kitchen and you can’t cook, then take yourself out to dinner. Seriously.
And your FI’s friend sounds like the least considerate houseguest ever. Apparently he’s a small child. And you know what small children need? Firmly enforced rules. (E.g. no playing loud music after 1am; say please and thank you; pick up after yourself.)
Post # 14
Simple answer: 7 am + time to vacuum!!! There’s nothing worse
Post # 15
@jasmine.hunter: Lmao do this!!!
Guys turn into such barbarians when they drink in groups….i don’t get it
Post # 16
Fiance did apologize and he cleaned up without being asked. Buddy is a nice guy and I don’t mind having him around when sober…I don’t think they have it in them anymore to get quite so drunk a 2nd night in a row, so tonight should be better (plus, Fiance knows he will be in the dog house big time if this happens again).