Post # 1
It’s so strange to be writing something so personal to an entire group of people who I don’t know, but I wanted to just write it down, mostly for mysef and see how it feels.
I have hated my office job for over 2 years now and I think that i’m finally ready to quit. The wedding is three months away, so this is definately putting an unexpected twist on things. But the reality of it is, I don’t want to become someone’s wife while I’m spending the majority of my days in a situation that requires me to be unhappy and have to pretend to be something that I’m not. Can anyone relate?
Post # 3
do you have another job lined up? Can you afford to live off his salary?
If so, I wish you the best, but please be careful in this job market if you said no and no.
I sometimes fantasize about quitting, too, but I’ve sold out for now…the $ is too good, and we are saving up for starting our family!
Post # 4
I can totally relate! My previous job was in a dysfunctional office, and I was miserable. I finally had that moment when I said, I just can’t do this anymore. This job is sucking the life out of me! I gave a very generous notice, but I was soooo happy when I quit. And my then boyfriend, now husband, was too. It was super scary quitting before I had another job, but it worked out in the end. Good for you for taking care of yourself. Having an income is great, and necessary, but being happy and taking care of yourself is just as necessary.
Post # 5
Sorry for the duplicate posting!
Post # 6
I can definitely relate! I mean, I like my job (50 percent of the time!) but I feel that life would be much happier if I didn’t work. We just got married in November – I HATE that I work the opposite schedule as my hubby and there are some days I think life would be easier if I could go when I want to – but it doesn’t exactly work that way..heh. But seriously. I understand and I am sure you’ll find a lot of other bees that understand =)
Post # 7
The rational side of me agrees with cannotwait. I’m sorry you are in this position – I hope it works out!
Post # 8
as long as you’ll be ok financially go for it but if it’s gonna set you guys back…i wouldn’t do it.
Post # 9
yes! i was in the position before and was so happy when i quit. it’s important to realize what matters in life and i’m happy to see that you’ve done that. spending 8hrs a day (or more) in a bad environment can take a toll on anyone. all the best to you 🙂
Post # 10
Being unhappy in a job is the most unhealthy thing for yourself and your marriage! My fiance quit his job a few months ago…his skin has falling off from stress! He has a great career now and our relationship has blossomed 🙂 We couldn’t really afford it at the time but I’m really glad we made it work!! QUIT! Think of all the wedding stuff you can get done…
Post # 11
I know how you feel! I was so glad I was quitting my job when we got married. I’m trying to find something else now though.
Post # 12
good for you! obviously, you have to make sure you can pay your bills and all, but i feel like so many people settle in their lives. find something that you love. find something that inspires and motivates you. it will make you a better person. and, ultimately, you’ll be an inspiration to your kids (should you choose to have any). we only have one life to live, so why spend it miserable? good luck!
Post # 13
Yes. My job makes me kinda bummed and depressed. My dad said it took some spark out of my soul and he and my mom have noticed a shift in my personality over the last year.
But I’m not taking one pair of shoes off until I have another to put on. Just make sure your’e ready–my husband is unemployed and it’s tough on us, financially. My salary barely stretches over the 2 of us. I’d really like for him to get a job so he can contribute to the household more and we can start putting some savings away.
How does your Fiance feel about it? Ultimately he has to bear the burden of you quitting, too. I understand not liking your job, but I understand the rationality of needing a paycheck also.
Post # 14
Gosh, I would LOVE to quit my job tomorrow. Like ejs, everyone’s noticed a personality change in me since working where I do. It’s so bad that I can’t even enjoy Sundays because I know I have to go to work the next day. I feel like I want to scream everyday at my desk out of frustration. It’s that bad.
BUT, I can’t quit. We couldn’t afford it. Would you mind sharing how you’re able to quit a job and save for a wedding at the same time? I’m sure many bees would want to know your secret 🙂
Post # 15
Yup! I can totally relate-
I am turning in my notice on Friday. I can’t wait!!! I want to start off the marriage in a job that I actually like. I have a new one lined up to start after the honeymoon.
Post # 16
Good for you! Its going to feel so liberating to quit. I know all about having a job environment like that. Sometimes I feel like mine is draining the life out of me. I have to begin looking but I figured I’d have to wait until after the wedding. Enjoy the stress relief! 😉