(Closed) Quitting my job.. Eeeek, I have such anxiety!

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

FutureMrsW2015:  ehh not much words of wisdom BUT if she freaks SCREW HER! hahaha you have a job lined up. Don’t allow this crap job to cause you anymore stress. Out with the HORRIBLE and in with the AMAZING. Good Luck and congrats!

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

 Congratulations on the new job! Do what makes you Happy. You’re the one living your life, not her. She may be angry, but you won’t have to deal with her any longer so who cares! Just be as professional as possible and that’s all you can do. If you get nervous or upset just think about the great opportunities you’re getting!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I am in a similar boat – waiting 2 job offers, and I am dreading telling my boss – there has been a lot of turnover in our office and I know she isn’t going to handle it well. UGH, but 2 weeks later life gets much better. Just power through it! You got this! Congrats on the new job!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

FutureMrsW2015:  When I quit my last job (for a position at a company that I had tried to get into for 3 years) my boss was a nightmare. She told me “my generation” had no loyalty and we all quit jobs every year because we are never happy. Then told me she was disappointed in me because “I promised her I would work there for at least a year” when my last day was actually like 2 days before my 1 year anniversary. And ya know what? It made me feel all that much better about leaving.  You have another position lined up so you have nothing to worry about. Try to make a plan to go out to lunch or drinks with a work friend afterwards so you have soemthing to look forward to after!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I hate giving notice too. Even if I really didn’t like the position or the company…it’s always an uncomfortable thing to do. You just have to remember, your boss has had many people give notice in their life. To you it is not as common but for a manager it happens more. They are used to it and life happens.

Just know that once you’ve done it you will feel SO much better!

I’ve had times where I didn’t think my manager would take it well and they really surprised me. Just be professional and say that you’ve really enjoy your time there and everything you’ve learned and your thankful for the opportunity.

Congrats!! You have to look out for yourself…you can do it. And like I said…as much as it SUCKS going in…coming out when your done will feel like a huge weight is off your shoulders!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

princesserbear:  FutureMrsW2015:  I totally second the drinks with friends after work!!!

I can’t believe your boss said those things to you…how rude!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

FutureMrsW2015:  I did this years ago. My boss was such a horrendous person, and she took advantage of me, constantly skipped over me for promotions, and then made me train the people she promoted. I also did payroll so I knew exactly what they would be making, yet I had to train them.

Well, once I finally found a job at another company, I still wanted to leave on good terms. You’ll never know if somewhere down the line a job, mortgage company, etc… will need a reference. Theres no need to burn that bridge. Well, I wrote a resignation letter explaining my decision to leave as well as my end date. I also wrote in the letter that I was leaving because I was given a tremendous opportunity that sadly, I wasn’t going to be able to get at my current position and therefore it was time to move on. I thanked her and the company for the years I spent with them and the opportunity I was given there. When I met with my boss, I handed her the letter and let her know that this was my formal resignation. I let her know when my last day would be (verbally) and then thanked her and walked back to my desk.

I knew that I would forget everything I wanted to say and she would have baited me into an argument, so I didn’t want to give her the satisfaction.

She spent the next week begging me to stay and asking me to show her how to do things- that she should have known all along how to do. I realized how panicked she was and how she never thought I would stand up and just leave. She always looked down on me and treated me like I couldn’t do any better so this was definitely a slap in the face to her.

Luckily I did this, because my last day (2 weeks later) the staff was throwing me a goodbye luncheon (they do this for all employees that had been there over 5 years) and the morning I came in, she had the security guard post a picture at the front desk telling me I was not allowed into the building (like a criminal) and that they had my personal things in a box for me downstairs. I never got to attend my party. I contacted HR and let them know what happened and they were profusely apologetic that they never believed me any of the times over the years that I told them what was going on. My ex-boss is still at the company so obviously they weren’t too sorry, but had I not written that letter and kept copies, HR would have thought she fired me and that I got nasty with her and she had to ban me from the building. A few weeks later, I needed a reference for an apartment and a security clearance for my new job, and a termination would have looked horrible and maybe cost me my job!!!!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by  MissJulianna.
Post # 11
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Helper bee

I was shaking and about in tears when I gave my notice for my past job, but luckily my boss was extremely happy for me because she knew I was going to follow my dreams and she jumped up and down and gave me a hug. But it is a stressful experience!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

FutureMrsW2015:  Yeah, it depends on the situation there at work. I knew my boss would have had me escorted out of the building THAT DAY I had handed her the letter, had she not been desperate. It’s not uncommon for you to be let go the same day without notice once you voice your desire to leave in my old company because of sensitive information.

She kept me around for those 2 weeks because she was useless. The lady literally spent all day on the phone, shopping, at beauty appointments, etc and got paid hundreds of thousands of dollars a year to do it… She didn’t have a clue how to do her own reports, how to manage or even something simple like using her google calendar or email. I did EVERYTHING in that office. I think she let me stay because there wouldn’t have been anyone to train my replacement and even while meeting with the replacement over the week, she realized that no one was going to put up with her shit or be able to handle the workload I did and this made her SUPER ANGRY especially when she realized that I had no intention of changing my mind about leaving. She really assumed til the last day that I was calling her bluff on giving me a promotion/raise.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by  MissJulianna.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

FutureMrsW2015: if you can get some time off to regroup and release some of that anxiety before starting a new position, that will be best!

If you have any personal items in your office, make sure it is all packed up and outside of the office before you give your notice, that way they don’t prevent you from taking it. 🙂

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