- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
My husband recently had his first doctor appointment in FOREVER. While we were there, his doctor told him he really HAD to stop smoking. He has smoked about a pack a day since he was eighteen. His mom smoked too and now has COPD and recently started using oxygen, so the doctor told him he would be going down that same road if he didn’t change his ways.
Until recently, he hasn’t wanted to stop. He LIKES smoking and because he has not yet felt any bad effects, it’s been easy for him to tell himself he will stop eventually. He has tried to stop in the past, but never for more than a few weeks.
However, after his doctor visit and seeing his mom, he realizes he does need to stop. So I came up with a proposition for him. If he makes a serious attempt to stop smoking, I will at the same time, make a serious attempt to lose weight. I need to lose about 40 pounds.
To me, this sounds like a great idea. We would both be giving up our drug of choice (his – nicotine, mine – food) together. It is my way of supporting him; instead of just saying “Yeah, you really do need to stop smoking” I’ll be addressing my issues with food too (it would seem hypocritical of me not to). And as an added bonus for him, he’d end up with healthier, thinner wife.
He, however, is afraid we might kill each other. He says he will be very cranky and will eat more than normal, which in turn will drive me crazy. I’m a bit worried about that too.
But we have an appointment with his doctor soon. He will be asking for help (Chantix, Zyban, gum, patches, something?) and a plan to stop. I’m SUPER excited about this. Although I’ve never made any comments to him about smoking, I secretly hate that he does it (and am scared to death about what it’s doing to him).
My question for those of you who smoke or have smoked in the past is who has the harder task? He is SURE quitting smoking will be harder, but I am not sure. He can just not be around cigarettes AND he will have medications to help him. I cannot avoid food entirely, will have no medication to make me less hungry, and will have to deal with being around him who will be eating MORE than normal. But I’ve never smoked, so I obviously have no idea how hard that will be for him (though I do realize it won’t be easy).
Has anyone both quit smoking AND had a significant weight loss? Which did you find harder and why?