Post # 1
Anyone out there inviting your rabbi and his/her partner to the reception? We are and I’m struggling with seating. Is it really necessary for them to sit with our parents or with us? With divorced parents it’s a bit complicated, plus I doubt our rabbi would want to sit at the head table.
We’re getting married in 26 days and the seating is the HARDEST part. Ugh.
Post # 3
We didn’t have a rabbi, but we did have a minister… I had a hard time with this too though. We ended up seating our minister and his wife with my husband’s grandparents. It seemed like the best solution for us because they shared similar (traditional) beliefs. They seemed to get along well. Basically, I recommend finding someone they may have something in common with and put them there 🙂
P.S. I hope it was ok that I posted something here even though my husband and I aren’t Jewish.
Post # 4
We invited our rabbi and his wife (we didn’t have a relationship with them prior to the wedding, we hired him for the wedding) but they didn’t end up coming–he stayed for the cocktail hour and then left, so it didn’t end up being an issue!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
We invited our Rabbi and his wife – but they were longtime friends of ours – his wife didn’t wind up flying in but he stayed for the reception and we sat him with mutual friends
Post # 7
We invited our rabbi, knowing that he couldn’t come b/c it was Purim so he had to head straight back to the temple.
But my thoughts on seating charts are that you just can’t make everyone happy, so try not to stress! Is he friendly with any of your other guests?
Post # 8
we met the rabbi just through the planning process, as both of us werent from the city we got married in….we invited him and his wife…AND THEY DIDNT EVEN SEND IN THER RSVP!!!!! rude!
anywyas, suring one of the premarital meetings we had with him, I mentioned and asked if he would be joining us for dinner, and he said no but thank you. He had prior arrangements..which made it nice when planning the tables. But we did invite them as respect, but i seriously dont think they expect it. They conduct SO MANY weddings…could you imagine if they went to all of them?!
Post # 9
We were told that it is polite to send an invitation to the rabbi and his wife, but that unless they were previously friends, they most likely would decline. That was certainly the case for us.