(Closed) Raffling Off Alcohol: Tacky or Fun???

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I hate to be a downer, but it honestly sounds really tacky to me.  Plus, it seems rude, I mean, you’ll be giving out alcohol to some guests but not all, which is a huge bummer if you’re a guest from a “loser” table.  

Post # 4
13292 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think it fits in with a black tie theme.  Plus – are you raffling it off for people to drink there?  Meaning, the rest of the guests don’t get the liquor?  I don’t think that’s fair at all.

I also think it’s rude to put bottles on only select tables.  It sends the wrong message to your other guests (“I liked these people enough to give them booze, but you weren’t worth that cost”). 

Post # 5
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it should be equal. Everyone gets liquor or nobody does. I think giving the liquor to the “serior” tables but not to others is also pretty bad.

Post # 6
365 posts
Helper bee

@carrierbleu:  that might be illegal. I know it is in my state.

Post # 7
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly, it sounds a bit tacky to me.  You can’t give some people a bunch of alcohol and then leave others out.  All or nothing, in my opinion!

Post # 8
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Fun at a bachelorette party, tacky at a wedding (especially a black tie only one).

Pick what you can have available to everyone and make a menu of that and stick with it. Beer, wine, and a signature drink is just fine.

May I ask, what is your overall budget for this black tie wedding? I just ask because it is unusual in my circle to have a black tie wedding but not a full open bar, because there is a perceived level of expense that goes along with black tie. When you say black tie, are you expecting people to wear tuxes and gowns?

I only did beer, wine, and a signature drink, but our wedding was semi-formal.

Post # 9
9691 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t like it because then the losers are left with nothing.  I don’t like putting it only on certain tables either, that’s pretty rude.  I’d say all or nothing as well.

Post # 10
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

@carrierbleu:  Oh my…so tacky. I love that you want to have fun with your wedding (who says black tie has to equally stodgy?), but I think there are better ways to incorporate some lighthearted fun. 

Post # 11
3276 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Maybe give it to the wedding party to have. But yeah I’m not a fan of the raffling. 

Post # 12
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think this is a terrible idea.  I also think maybe it shouldn’t be a black tie wedding.

And I don’t think any kind of games fit in with a black tie wedding.  I would definitely try to serve beer.  Men don’t want to get dressed in a tuxedo and find out they can’t even have a beer. 

Post # 13
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I am also in the tacky camp. I’d just have the cognac reserved for bridal party and immediate family. Are you having a bartender? Or you could just do a cigars and cognac section for the guys to enjoy while the ladies talk and dance.

Post # 14
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@carrierbleu:  Skip the raffle and tell your stepmom no to the bottles on select tables. Weddings are an all or nothing deal when it comes to offering something to guests.

Post # 15
463 posts
Helper bee

1) IMO reception hospitality should apply to all guests or no guests. Singling out certain tables for extra hospitality never looks good.

2) The trivia games probably wouldn’t accomplish the goal of giving extra stuff to the guests who would appreciate it most, since it’s entirely possible that a competitve trivia-loving table could win without actually caring about the prize itself.

Will the seniors be at the rehearsal dinner? Maybe you can serve the cognac then instead, so the seniors still get to enjoy it but they aren’t being singled out at the reception?

Or, you or your stepmom could gift the cognac to your older relatives at some point, like to thank them for being your role models.

There are lots of options and ways to give people extras without creating different levels of hospitality at your reception.

Post # 16
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not cool to play raffle games at a wedding. Also not cool to give some guests upgraded food or drink in plain view of others who don’t get the same offer. No one needs a full bottle of Remy per table. Buy enough to serve an after-dinner drink to all those who want it.

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