(Closed) Raising a child takes just as much time management as…

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Raising a child takes just as much time management as…
    Planning a wedding (if you were planning multiple weddings for the rest of your life) : (6 votes)
    9 %
    Working a full time job (for the rest of your life) : (26 votes)
    39 %
    Doing a masters (or multiple degrees for the rest of your life) : (8 votes)
    12 %
    Being on the board of directors for a non-profit (for the rest of your life) : (3 votes)
    4 %
    It takes more time than anything above and is overwhelming/not very manageable : (17 votes)
    25 %
    Other (below?) : (7 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    very interesting question.  I don’t have kids so I can’t comment but I’ll be interested to see the responses.

    Post # 4
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    1231 posts
    Bumble bee

    I know you said people with kids, but i’m a teacher and work with kids on a daily basis. I would say if you really want to know how it will be, get a dog. They constantly need attention and to know you love them. You need to feed them, take them on walks, clean up after them, find someone to watch them when you go away, and they wake you up in the middle of the night. So, if you can handle that, with everything else, you should be good to go with kids (kids may need a bit more, but not much more!).

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I have a 9 year old and was a single parent for a good while before I met Fiance.  From the time my daughter was born until she was 3 I was in school full time (12 hours) and worked at least part time.  My senior year of college was 12 class hours, 20 hours of work and 20 hours of internship each week.  I managed.  Once I graduated I took on a full time job, while still parenting solo.  Again I made it work.

    Parents make it work.  It’s not really something you can say, this work is equal to that work, because parenting is like nothing else.  I could potentially be a better parent if I didn’t work full time, but I know of other moms that are the best parent because they work.  When the time is right for you and Fiance you’ll know and take that step.  And then like all the parents before you, you’ll make it work.

    Post # 6
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I secretly have so many questions for parents, but I am always afraid they won’t be able to answer honestly/ will feel obligated to lie.

    Post # 7
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    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It is all consuming. I’m not going to lie.

    I work mother’s hours. I literally drop her off on my way in and pick her up at school on my way home. As a parent, you have to account for where your child is and if they are safe, warm, hungry, sad, etc.

    It is also amazing. Having a child changes almost every aspect of your life. 

    Post # 8
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    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I worked full time as a single parent and it was like nothing you can ever imagine! I get tired just remembering…

    Post # 9
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @cbee: ask away…I promise I will be completely honest

    I gave birth to my daughter the summer before my senior year in college. I definitely had to manage parenting the same way that I manage my career. The key for me was getting my daughter on a schedule. She has been on the same schedule, with few variations, since she was about 3 months old or so. She is 13 now. As a single parent, coordinating with other parents was key. My daughter has been involved in the same extracurricular activities as some of the neighbors kids so we share chauffer duties. I plan out meals for the week and prepare as much in advance as possible so that when we get home I can cook while she does homework…or she can cook on the days she doesn’t have homework. 

    It honestly never ends. I think it’s actually WORSE than a full-time career b/c at least with work, you know when you are done for the day, you are done….LOL. 

    Post # 11
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    1124 posts
    Bumble bee

    …as becoming a principal in a ballet company.

    Post # 12
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    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t think it’s really comparable to any of your choices.  Ummm, and I really don’t think it’s at all comparable to having a puppy.  Puppies and careers/activities demand your time and attention, but with a child, you don’t get to “turn it off.”  Even when you’re child is at school or day care you’re still “at work” in the sense of being a mother, and puppies grow up and become autonomous quite a bit quicker than babies, not to mention the fact that a newborn is like 100 times more needy than a puppy.  It’s just not the same.

    Having said that, lots of people lead busy lives and have kids.  My husband and I both work full-time, and my husband is working full-time on his Master’s right now.  I’ll start my Master’s this fall.  It’s not so much that you can’t do all of it at once (some moms have already commented that they did it all and they did it by themselves, which is way harder than what I’m doing), but it’s more a matter of do you want to do all those things at once?  Honestly, I wish I had more time to just be a parent and to spend with our daughter, and my husband feels the same way.  It works fine, but both of us wish we didn’t have to do so much so that we could spend more time with our kid.  It’s not that doing all those things and having babies is impossible, it’s just that it might not be ideal.

    Post # 13
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Kids and puppies… not the same!

    Being a parent is all consuming. It doesn’t mean it has to run your life, but for awhile it might until you achieve balance. There is nothing to compare it to, I have done some difficult things in life, but nothing has been more challenging or rewarding than becoming a parent.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee

    I’m not a mom yet (in Sept!), but I don’t think it compares to any of the choices.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It is definitely time consuming to have a child, but of course it is totally worth it. I was a single parent really up until the last year when Fiance moved back, my son is 12 now. I went to school, worked while I was in school, and aftewards have always have a full time job. You definitely just learn to manage your time. My son has had the same best friend since he was 4 years old & luckily his friends mom & myself are good friends too so durings sports, etc we have been able to alternate taking the boys if one of us had something come up. Not to say its not hard, but you learn to balance all of your time.

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