Post # 1
Does anybody else ever feel like they are getting lost in wedding details that seem so big or complicated but really just don’t matter? Like does it really matter if your colors and flowers are the exact same color? Who really truly cares about weather or not you have carnations or roses? Who cares if you have fancy shoes no one will even see unless you have a short dress or you are doing a garter toss? Who cares if your centerpieces are flowers, candles, books, or lanterns? Who cares what your dress cost or where you bought it? In the end most people just don’t care. I feel like the more I plan this wedding the more I am told how it’s supposed to be or that some thing is lacking compared to another persons wedding. Or if I say I want cloth table covers and not plastic or real china not paper then I am a spoiled brat trying to be someone I’m not. The whole industry says it has to be this elaborate, best day of your life thing. I sometimes get so caught up in planning that I lose sight of the wedding I actually want. I had someone tell me that I absolutely shouldn’t do artificial flowers they make her wanna barf and another tel me it is selfish to use real flowers that money could go to charity so what to pick tacky or selfish? I recently got so caught up in what people will eat thier food off of! No mattee what I use they will have a plate no matter if it is paper, plastic, glass or china they will eat! And if someone is too good to eat the free food off the plates I paid for in exchange for your company then GTFO. I really think I am going to take a break and evaluate what is really important to me because I HATE planning at this point but I want to love it and have fun and not worry aboutl being judged on stupid materialistic things that nobody will remember one year down the road anyway.
Post # 3
@brittanyfm91: You are exactly right.
Circumstances in our life meant the wedding I started planning last year ended up being planned in the 7 weeks prior. There were a lot of things I simply didn’t have time to worry about, but needed to get done. I told my florist that I wanted something simple and elegant, and this is what I could spend, and left him to it (I literally had no idea what my flowers looked like until they arrived, and they were beautiful. Almost 3 weeks later, they are STILL almost a beautiful as our wedding day). I told my decorator what I envisioned, and left her to it. I gave my caterer a budget and a general guideline, and left her to it.
Everything turned out fine. Everyone had a BLAST. Everyone was fed. Not a single person has commented on how boring my card box was, or that the best man’s tie didn’t really match the maid of honour’s dress. No one whispered because our invites weren’t Etsy one-of-a-kind creations. I ended up bringing home most of our custom napkins.
You are right, no one will notice the little details like you do. I don’t know if anyone but me noticed my nautical bunting or paper mache liferings. I’m still glad I made them, but they didn’t make or break our wedding, and if they had been a source of stress for me (they weren’t), it would have been a whole lot of wasted energy.
Post # 4
Preach it!!! I feel you. Trust me, on the other side of wedding mania it is GREAT to get back to normal life where people aren’t constantly nagging you about colors and alterations and music choices. Geez. Good luck to ya…
Post # 5
Don’t get me wrong I want a nice wedding with a nice reception, I do want this. But I was not prepared for how people act like little things I usually never notice at weddings make or break your whole day.
Post # 6
@brittanyfm91: I totally agree with you. Before I found WeddingBee, I had a rough idea of how things worked and how I wanted our wedding day to look.
Once I got here, I was quickly overwhelmed by all of the “little things” that many people worry about or consider really important. Things and “problems” that I never even knew existed. I realised if I didn’t get away from it all that I would get too caught up in worrying about things that don’t really matter/how things are “supposed” to be, so I actually forced myself away for a little while.
I’ve since come back, more level-headed, and am just more aware of not getting lost in the minor details of things when I have a stroll through the Boards. I’ve found a lot of great advice on here, and am grateful for everyone’s opinions and advice – the key thing is just to seek it when you need it. It’s your special day; only you know what you want and how to do it… but every now and then there’ll be something you’re just not quite sure of, and that’s when this place comes in handy.
Post # 7
@ksus07: That is good advice that I plan on following, I wish it worked that way with family too they are the worst ones!
Post # 8
@brittanyfm91: Details don’t matter but I think SCHEDULE means everything when it comes to the wedding, that and vendors. If your schedule is bullet proof and you are working with the right people then your wedding will be a blast! Years from now nobody will remember the small stuff but the big things won’t be forgotten!