(Closed) Random guest list vent – this is the only place that will understand

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: So how was your guest list
    Easy peasy - no funny issues : (2 votes)
    11 %
    One or two changes but ok : (8 votes)
    42 %
    OMG joining you on the drama central train : (9 votes)
    47 %
    other - explanation below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1932 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

    The guest list was by far the most stressful part of the wedding.

    We had a low-budget day, and our venue was small, so we knew it had to be tight. what I DIDN’T know is that no one from his side would end up coming. If I’d foreseen this, it would have made it A LOT easier!

    We wrote up the initial guest list, it came to over 200 people. His family and friends in NY and my family and friends in MN, and then our friends together from NY. It was crazy.

    I have a big extended family, so duh, have to invite them all. Plus we had a closeknit group of friends in NY, but we had two different groups.

    I really regret the choices I made during this process.

    We ended up leaving out an entire group of friends in NY so we could invite the other group, and left out most of my friends in MN so I could invite my family in MN.

    Well considering only 7 people from his side (we had invited over 60 from his side) came, we ended up with only about 65-70 people at the wedding anyway, and had room for about 30 more! I was so upset because then I had people who wouldn’t be my friends after I got married because they weren’t invited, even though I had explained to sooo many people that it was family and CLOSE friends only (like SUPER CLOSE), and people take it sooo personally.

    Anyway, something about weddings brings out the worst in everyone, sad, but true. I had more issues that year of my life relationships-wise than any other period of my life.


    about your issue with your couple friend that broke up, I say invite both with a plus 1. Might be awkward but the other WILL feel left out if you only invite one.

    Post # 4
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Yeah. We’ve gone through so many revisions it’s not funny, adding, deleting, switching. As of today, I am holding off on mailing out the invites for one side of the family (drama central) until a decision is made as to whether an aunt and an uncle are cut or staying, I have to change one invite to Ms Maiden name instead of Mr and Mrs Married Name AND my mother has decided to tell people it’s fine to bring their kids to my adults only wedding. Right now, I honestly don’t know how many people are actually on the final list, and invites are made out and going out next week.

    Post # 6
    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am still waiting on addresses and the “rest” of my moms list!! So aggrivating!

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