(Closed) Random invite requesters- I wanna hear your stories!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

My uncle dated a woman for about ten years and it ended back when I was about ten (I’m 30 now).  I used to be the receptionist in the office that she worked in as a real estate agent when I was in my twenties.  Anyway, she wanted to come.  I haven’t seen her in at least 2-3 years, but my mom still works in the same office and sees her every few months, and the lady asked my mom.  I mean, I like her, but come on!

“Uh, probably not, they’re having a small wedding.”  Thanks, mom.  😛

Post # 4
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

I’ve got several. 

1) a random kid I did my undergrad with, said to me on Facebook “Oh, I hope I’m invited to your wedding – I want to come because I know you’ll throw a nice wedding”.  Umm… so you know I’ll have nice shit at my wedding and good food and an open bar, and you’re not afraid to admit this is your impetus for wanting to come?  NEXT! 

2) My FI’s 3rd cousin, who’s 35 and just moved in with my FI’s great aunt and uncle… asked if she could “tag along” with them, since they raised her as a child, and she’s back living with them due to life fuck ups.  A 35 year old asking to tag along as a child?  Are you kidding? We had to say yes to that one. 

3) My cousin, who is a bitch, and doesn’t like that I’m having a wedding and her mom is excited about it… said “I don’t know if I’ll bring my daughter to the wedding… I’m not sure I’d like to expose her to that kind of wedding” (gay).  My Mom was horrified and said “OH, thats fine because YOUR CHILD ISN’T INVITED ANYWAY!” 

 

I hateeee when people assume they are invited.  Hate it. 

Post # 5
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3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think people hear wedding… and immediately think, “Sweet! FREE FOOD AND BOOZE!” It pisses me off to no end… Its bad enough when you have a small wedding and can’t invite people you want to.

Post # 6
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@Woodstock:  totally 100% agree.  Its so tacky that people do this kind of thing.  I would never want to go to someone’s wedding I didn’t really know just to get a free meal and some liquor.  

Post # 8
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had a cousin that grew up completely across the country from me, and visited our grandma a few times (in my home state), which is the only place I’ve ever seen him. I haven’t seen him since about 10 (18 year ago)…. It obviously didn’t even cross my mind to invite him…for besides those few times when we were lil kids, he hasn’t even left his state, to the best of my knowledge. I don’t really know him, and his father passed when we were little, which was my moms bro…. so, there was even less reason for him to travel back to my state to see the family. Well, no joke…. 1 week before the wedding he decided to be a free bird, move from Cali and just go where the wind blew him (I heard this through people in the family) 3 days before the wedding, he found me on FB and wanted an invite. Needless to say I had no idea what to do…we had a head count, and place settings… it was horrible. Also, he assumed my wedding was in my home state, but it wasn’t. The boy didn’t even know I had moved to Charleston years ago (that’s how little we talked). I sadly had to tell him no…needless to say he was pissed….

Add: I told him we already had a head count and settings and no joke he said, “I’ve got money..money isn’t a problem! I can pay for my own damn food!!” Surprised

Pinksapphire fair warning, they come out of the wood work!! It gets nuts!! And like you, I have no friggin’ clue why people would want to come to some random wedding… I still haven’t figured out why about 5 of the people who asked to come had asked!!!

Post # 9
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

HAHA oh these stories….I can only imagine what stragglers will want to invite themselves to my wedding someday. Sheesh.

Post # 10
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a coworker I don’t like invite herself. I gave the usual “it’s a small wedding just for really close family and friends” and everything SEEMED ok. Then a few days she came back and said she’d checked out the website of my wedding venue (a pay to enter show garden), and that it “seemed like anyone wanting to pay price ofadmission could attend” and “it’s a free country, dont you know”. 

Sure… If you want to take a half day off for my Friday wedding an hour away and pay twenty bucks for the pleasure I guess it IS a free country…

Post # 11
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@SapphireSun:  thats actually really sad she felt the need to do that.  I don’t understand people.  Well, I do.  They want to feel important and included.  But seriously – looking up a venue and paying their admission to crash a coworkers wedding? Jesus H Christ. 

Post # 13
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

A friend of a friend who was coming to the wedding FB messaged me saying that “He might be able to swing being in town the weekend of my wedding, would it be okay if he came?”  oh and with a plus one!!!  ARE YA KIDDING ME?

Post # 15
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@MamaMegs721:  What was your response?! lol.  It seems that these d-bag requests are always on Facebook. 

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