Post # 1
Did you ladies actually put your rings on the ring bearer pillow? My mom and I were talking about this the other day, and I was saying how I’ve never heard of anyone putting the actual rings on the pillow; they usually just put two decorative rings or none at all. She went on to say that it was silly not to, otherwise what is the point of a ring bearer? I said most people I knew had one as a way to include someone who meant a lot to them [like a nephew, brother, etc.] in your wedding. That and I’m really OCD and want both sides to be balanced, since our daughter is our flower girl.
I honestly wasn’t planning on putting the rings on the pillow. I’m not sure if it’s regional, age, or what, but did you ladies do this?
Post # 3
I didn’t have a ring bearer at all, but a few of my friends did and they definitely didn’t put the actual rings on the pillow – they used two fakes. My friends all had super young ring bearers and they were afraid that they would fling the rings under a church pew or something lol. Their best men carried the actual rings in their pockets.
Post # 4
Every wedding I’ve been to, the ring bearer holds the fakes. For me, most important parts of the wedding: The marriage licence, the officient and the rings. I wouldn’t trust any of those things in the care of someone under 10 🙂
Post # 5
We are attaching fake rings to the ring bearers pillow. He is only gong to be 3 1/2 so I wouldn’t trust our actual rings would still be on the pillow once he gets to the alter.
Post # 6
My son has been a ring bearer in 2 weddings, both times they were fake rings. He will be the ring bearer in our wedding also but I will have him use our actual rings, he will be 7 so he should be fine with them, and I guess because it’s my son it will have a special meaning for us.
Post # 7
I was one of two ring bearers as a child at my Grandfather’s wedding; I was six-years-old, his wife’s grandson was the other and he was four-years-old, and we had the actual rings. And my friends’ weddings had ring bearers, pillow and all.
I’m, personally, tired of the pillow. We’re trying to think of an alternative presentation.
We’re thinking of having my FI’s twin nephews as the ring bearers, one holding my ring and the older holding his ring. The plan is for them to hand them off to the best man and maid/en of honor and then sit down. While they’ll be eight by the wedding, they’re not so good with intricate tasks. At least this is the plan, as of right now.
Post # 8
Every wedding i’ve been to used fake ones or none at all. I thought the Maid/Matron of Honor and best man held the rings.
Post # 9
I am having him hold the actual rings, but I’m not having a pilow so I am not really worried about him losing them (knock on wood). They are going to be in a box with a clasp, so i fhe does misplace them he will be misplacing the entire box. Still a mishap if it happens, but at least much easier to find.
Post # 10
We definitely didn’t put the real rings on the pillow. The best man had them!
Post # 11
We will have fake rings on the pillow. The best man will hold the rings.
Post # 12
Our ring bearers will be 2 and 4. To be honest, I’m not even certain if they’ll even make it down the aisle without seeing a bug or something and running in the other direction lol The best man will definitely be carrying the real rings.
Post # 13
Thanks, ladies. She just made it sound like I was crazy for wanting to use fakes. Whew!
Post # 14
Nope, not crazy. Our “ring bearer” just carried in a pillow, mostly because he was the cutest thing ever in his little tie and vest. There was NO way I was letting a 14 month old (yeah, he was pretty little but walking like a MASTER!) carry real rings.
Post # 15
Yup our ring bearer will have the real rings and again its not on a pillow its going to be tied to a bible that has been passed down on my mothers side. I think it looks stupid to have decorative rings, he has to walk down the isle and thats it I’ll be able to watch him the entire way their is no way he can lose them in that short of span with everybody watching him. Just wait until the last moment to give the ring bearer the pillow or whatever that way he wont lose them.