Post # 1
I am curious because a lot of people expect so much out of their bridesmaids and other not so much.
What do you expect out of your bridesmaids?
Personal: Pretty much as long as they show up on the wedding day they are amazing. lol. I haven’t had a problem with any of them trying to help out in fact they have helped with so much and I never had to ask of such things. I love them! 🙂
Post # 3
To show up and to help with day of tasks.
Post # 4
@Katnisseverdeen: Just for your wedding?
Post # 5
The bottom line is that I expect my bridesmaids to support me and my fiance on our wedding day and throughout our marriage. There’s lots of superficial things like wearing an approved dress, posing for pictures, etc. But the most important is the friendship.
Post # 6
@JenGirl: I agreed that is the key friendship, im my case its family. 😉
Post # 7
To stand by me on my wedding day. I want the most important girls in my life by my side the day I marry my best friend. Nothing else; the girls have asked to help, but I have yet to take them up on their offer – they have their own busy lives.
Post # 10
Show up for the wedding wearing the dress I picked with hair and makeup done nicely. Also, show up to as many pre-wedding events as possible, but absolutely show up for the rehearsal. (Shower, bachelorette party if they can make it).
Also, I expect them not to get wasted and look like a fool at the wedding, but I’m not really scared of that.
Post # 11
The support is a given. I wouldn’t have asked them to be BMs if for once I thought they wouldn’t be supportive. Aside from that, I expect them to wear the dress we picked, show up on time for the rehearsal and wedding and they absolutely MUST feel fabulous on wedding day. I want the girls to love the way they look.
Post # 12
Look hot, have fun, get drunk after the speeches.
Post # 13
–Come to the rehearsal (though 1 bridesman may miss it for a very good reason)
–Be on time for wedding day events (i.e., hair & makeup, getting dressed, pictures)
— Buy the dress/rent tux that we selected
— Be positive on day of… don’t bring a bad mood/drama with them to the wedding
— Support my decision
— Help me out for the wedding – i.e., getting the dancing started, participate in any activities at the wedding, etc.
I think that’s it, really. Honestly, so far there haven’t been any problems (except my sister throwing a hissy fit when it came time to try on bm dresses… but, well, that’s par for the course with her – and I didn’t really “choose” her as a bm).
Post # 14
I’m a bit of a spaz on an everyday basis and more so when I’m happy/excited, so I can imagine I’ll be a clumsy, forgetful mess on the day of. That’s where my bridesmaids come in lol, I expect them to be on their toes and have contingency plans for contingency plans for details and such. Before that, though I guess I just expect their honest opinions on things when I ask for them and for them to pay for their dresses.
Post # 15
I chose my 3 best (and oldest) friends as my bridesmaids, and my Future Sister-In-Law (who I get along with really well). Honestly, I expect more from them than just showing up the day of, but what I expect is more emotional support and enthusiasm than helping me with lots of tasks, running errands for me, etc.
All I have asked so far is for them to go bridesmaid dress shopping with me (I brought wine and we had a ton of fun), and give me a few opinions here and there. When Fiance & I got the digital proof of our invitations last week, I was soooo excited, so I sent it to two of my BMs, who responded telling me how awesome they are. Little things like that mean a lot to me. I really appreciate stuff like that because I fully realize that no one cares as much about the details of our wedding as Fiance & I do – but it’s fun to share the excitement! That’s what best friends are for, and I’m happy to do it for all my engaged friends, too.
But in addition to the emotional support thing, I expect them to buy a dress, enjoy a “girls night out”/bachelorette party with me (because they have already talked about it; I would never tell them to plan anything for me), show up to the rehearsal, stay in a hotel with me the night before if they want/are able to (which I’m paying for), and be there the day of the wedding.
Post # 16
What do I expect? I expect them to purchase the dress and shoes we agreed on, show up on time, get ready on time, and help with anything I (or the MOH) need.
Other than that, I’d like that they at least offer to help with stuff (they have), but realistically, two of them live out of state (both work full time, one is planning a wedding and one has a baby to take care of), Maid/Matron of Honor lives an hour away (and works full time, goes to school, and is planning a wedding), one is only 15, and one works full time and has a kid. I don’t actually need help with anything (I don’t think) anyway, but the offer of help is nice. Maid/Matron of Honor has offered to help me several times, and has been very supportive of me via texts and emails, letting me vent and checking to see how I was doing after I got laid off. The other one who lives in town offered to help me with whatever and said I can use her house for my bigger DIY projects (since Fiance and I live in an apartment).
Hell, I don’t even expect most of them to come to showers lol.