(Closed) Random Question of the Day, Any takers? Wedding/Babies

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How long after you get married are you planning on having children, if at all?
    1st year after marriage : (42 votes)
    28 %
    2nd year after marriage : (41 votes)
    27 %
    3-4 years after marriage : (31 votes)
    21 %
    4-5 years after marriage : (14 votes)
    9 %
    5 + years after marriage : (7 votes)
    5 %
    Already have children : (9 votes)
    6 %
    Child Free : (7 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    853 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted for second year, but we’ll probably start trying the first year…..EEEEEEK!!!

    Post # 4
    7339 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We hope to be pregnant within the first year, yay!!!

    Post # 5
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    There’s no ” I don’t plan on having babies!” lol


    Post # 6
    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Where’s the option for third year?

    Post # 7
    13295 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Probably third or fourth year.  We want to buy a house and take another big vacation before having kids, and I’d like to recoup that money before getting pregnant!

    Post # 8
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If everything goes as planned, we’ll be buying a house within the next year and then start TTC roughly a year after that. Assuming it takes us some time to conceive, we’ll probably be somewhere around the 3-4 year mark. 

    Post # 9
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We are planning on 1-2 years, depending on how much we have saved up 🙂

    Post # 10
    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    4-5 years. We are still young (to be married at 25/27) and he is doing a Ph.D., so I do not want to have children until we both have steady jobs/are somewhat rooted somewhere.

    Post # 12
    5170 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    There is no “child free” option!

    Been married 2 1/2 years. Happily child free.


    However, I am answering anyway as it was not entirely that way before/when we got married. We were fencers when we married. Or more specifically, I was a fencer/ambivalent procrastinator who just figured I WOULD have them one day. Husband was less so and was more on the “wanted to have kids in his life even if not biological” side. The idea around time we married was we would wait about five years. Well, more like my husband commented one day as we were discussing our life overall “I would like to wait five years for kids”. I said “okay”.  Then a year or so after we were married, we decided we would restart the five years to wait “at least” another five years and it was not in the five year plan. Again, it was more like my husband said “I really don’t see having kids in the next five years”. Again, I said “works for me”. We definitely were not in a rush!

    Then as I thought about actually having children more (since it was now more “concrete” in a sense even if not for five years), I decided all my years of ambivalent procrastinating were telling me something, looked more at having children, and I landed firmly on the childfree side.  Husband is still not one to call himself child free, and he sometimes gets a bit of baby fever, but he believes there are other ways to have children in his life (mentoring, our nephews, etc) without having biological children so is happy as is.


    Post # 13
    8694 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We don’t really have a timeline, I would think maybe 2-3 years.

    Post # 15
    1437 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We already want kids, but we know we need to wait til we know we are ready. But i say within a year after marriage.

    Post # 16
    380 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Well shoot! I clicked the wrong one. 🙁   We already have 3 kids (I have 1, he has 2).  We are going to wait a year after the wedding & have his vasectomy reversed so that we can have one together.     🙂

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