Post # 1
Good Afternoon my bees!
So my question of the day is:
When do you plan on having children after you get married?
I was thinking about it this past weekend and got to thinking what you all think? What you and your Fi have agreed on, if you want kids at all??
Post # 3
I voted for second year, but we’ll probably start trying the first year…..EEEEEEK!!!
Post # 4
We hope to be pregnant within the first year, yay!!!
Post # 5
There’s no ” I don’t plan on having babies!” lol
Post # 6
Where’s the option for third year?
Post # 7
Probably third or fourth year. We want to buy a house and take another big vacation before having kids, and I’d like to recoup that money before getting pregnant!
Post # 8
If everything goes as planned, we’ll be buying a house within the next year and then start TTC roughly a year after that. Assuming it takes us some time to conceive, we’ll probably be somewhere around the 3-4 year mark.
Post # 9
We are planning on 1-2 years, depending on how much we have saved up 🙂
Post # 10
4-5 years. We are still young (to be married at 25/27) and he is doing a Ph.D., so I do not want to have children until we both have steady jobs/are somewhat rooted somewhere.
Post # 11
I just noticed sorry bees i forgot the 3rd year! :)) whoopsie!
&& I never mentioned ours!! lol We will most likely be in the 1-2 year, if it happens :))
Post # 12
There is no “child free” option!
Been married 2 1/2 years. Happily child free.
However, I am answering anyway as it was not entirely that way before/when we got married. We were fencers when we married. Or more specifically, I was a fencer/ambivalent procrastinator who just figured I WOULD have them one day. Husband was less so and was more on the “wanted to have kids in his life even if not biological” side. The idea around time we married was we would wait about five years. Well, more like my husband commented one day as we were discussing our life overall “I would like to wait five years for kids”. I said “okay”. Then a year or so after we were married, we decided we would restart the five years to wait “at least” another five years and it was not in the five year plan. Again, it was more like my husband said “I really don’t see having kids in the next five years”. Again, I said “works for me”. We definitely were not in a rush!
Then as I thought about actually having children more (since it was now more “concrete” in a sense even if not for five years), I decided all my years of ambivalent procrastinating were telling me something, looked more at having children, and I landed firmly on the childfree side. Husband is still not one to call himself child free, and he sometimes gets a bit of baby fever, but he believes there are other ways to have children in his life (mentoring, our nephews, etc) without having biological children so is happy as is.
Post # 13
We don’t really have a timeline, I would think maybe 2-3 years.
Post # 14
I went ahead and add some more to the poll!!
Post # 15
We already want kids, but we know we need to wait til we know we are ready. But i say within a year after marriage.
Post # 16
Well shoot! I clicked the wrong one. 🙁 We already have 3 kids (I have 1, he has 2). We are going to wait a year after the wedding & have his vasectomy reversed so that we can have one together. 🙂