(Closed) Random relationship question

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your FI/SO/DH share similarities with your ex boyfriend/husband?
    Yes- they are very much alike. I go for a certain type. : (0 votes)
    Sort of- They have many things in common but some distinct differences. : (43 votes)
    37 %
    Not at all- Like you this time I choose someone the complete opposite. : (65 votes)
    57 %
    I have no one to compare with. I am with my first love. : (7 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    They are alike in that they’re both very smart successful, funny and well spoken but the similarities end there. Darling Husband is very physically attractive and my ex was not (I dont’ care about looks, I go for personality). They come from different backgrounds – my ex came from a very wealthy family and Darling Husband does not (although they aren’t poor or anything – just not millionaires). And while I can’t really complain about how my ex treated me, Darling Husband treats me way better which I never even thought was possible. He doesn’t expect me to act a certain way to impress his family and friends like my ex did which was really annoying. I never felt that the real me was good enough, with Darling Husband I feel free to be myself at all times.

    Post # 4
    Member
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    They’re complete opposites.  🙂 

    My ex was more concerned about himself.  He was sweet and loving in the beginning, then completely turned.

    Fiance is so loving and caring.  Very considerate as well.  

    There’s a million differences between them both, but the most important is that I feel 100% complete with Fiance and have so much more confidence in our relationship together.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3520 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    All of my exes were the same.  My sister likes to say that I like them “big and dumb.”

    Fi, on the other hand, is the complete opposite and were are perfectly matched.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    They are only the same in the fact they both have said they disown me because I have never seen the Goonies… Other than that they are 100% different.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2158 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My most serious ex and my Fiance have some similarities in likes (both are into gaming, though not hardcore).   But other than that, nothing at all is the same.  Personalities are completely different.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2263 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t have any true exes (meaning I don’t count anyone i dated at the age of 13 an ex) but I guess my Boyfriend or Best Friend is different from them. Maybe you can add the option of those who are still with their first loves.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’ve had three serious relationships (including my husband) and they are all very different.

    I sometimes can’t even believe I dated the guy I was with before I met my husband!

    Post # 11
    Member
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nope. He is the complete opposite from all of my exes, thank god!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    my ex was big bloke, loud arrogant, a heavy drinker too (nasty drinker) smoked. had his good points he would spoil me rotten, but money isn;t everything and i much prefer affection to material possesions. all that said he’s the father of my son and for that i do care for him to some extent, and he’s a good dad

    my fi…. where do i start, not a big drinker (a soppy happy drunk when he does drink, major selling point for me) he’s romantic, loving, treats me like a princess, doesn’t have a temper in the slightest… great with my son. and he’s so affectionate 

    in away i should thank my ex he truely showed me everything i wanted in a man… the opposite of him lol. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Ummm. They both like horror movies and heavy metal (though FI’s taste is far better in both). But that’s it.

    Fiance is perfect, ex was an abusive, manipulative, whiny manchild douche. He’s the only ex I’m not on speaking/good terms with because of his behavior towards the end/at the breakup/after the breakup.

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    1368 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’d say all my past men are different. It wasn’t conscious though. With my bf however, I could say that I was more aware of what I wanted when we got together. Its called conscious dating? Also, I have changed/grown too so it’s natural that I’m with this person and not that person.

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    They are similar yet different.

    They both love raves, electronic music, drinking, the beach, movies, parks, walks… small things like that. (all things I love as well though)

    My ex Fiance was in jail though, lied a lot, was a cheat, took off for days at a time and I had no idea where he was…

    My Fiance was in the Marines, was cheated on instead of the cheater, calls when he gets off work to let me know he’s on his way home and I never have to ask where he is.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Hmm. There’s one ex I have that doesn’t fit the bill but the other two do share some of the same characteristics with Fiance. A gentle spirit, caring, somewhat quiet and shy but still able to have fun and joke around.

    They don’t act the same in a relationship, though. I felt like I never truly knew where I stood with the other two, and with Fiance I have never doubted a day in my life how much he loves me and is committed to me. Plus the exes were kind of douchebags in their own ways. Lol. 

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