Post # 32
@aggie2010: I’m in the skinny-fat boat as well. I don’t put on weight easily, but I’m very out of shape and not healthy (I get winded going up stairs). Recently I’ve tried to eat better and work out for my health. Getting engaged has made me think about my future more. I get very rude comments like “Oh look, a salad for you. What a surprise” Well yes actually it is, because usually I’m eating something greasy covered in bacon and for the first 20 years of my life I wouldn’t touch a veggie.
ETA…or worse, when I am eating something amazing and possibly covered in bacon I get told I must have an eating disorder, otherwise I couldn’t eat like that and still be thin. It’s all I can do not to say “Actually I am just awesome. Sorry your life sucks now go f*** off.”
Post # 33
Since getting engaged, I have a coworker who always makes comments about my lunch, like “Oh, you’re trying to lose weight for the wedding?” or “How’s the diet going?” or “Are you on a diet for your wedding?” Okay, yes I’m trying to eat healthier (lots of fruit and veggies at lunch) and I have lost weight, but it’s not his business and always makes me so uncomfortable!
Post # 34
i tend to get the usual “what’s wrong with you?” when i don’t wear makeup into work. i’m sorry, i am working night shift. who in the world is going to be seeing me at 0300 that i really care about?
or when i was getting career counseling i was basically told i was wasting my time by working towards my masters degree…really?
Post # 35
@littlemisst08: i have people tell me how to lose weight all the time. completely unsolicited. very rude and frustrating.
Post # 36
@BruinBeeMPH: funny you should being this up, cuz, earlier today I was getting gas in a little small town Mayberry type place, on my way thru town, back to my Big City. I’m all dressed up for work meetings today, heels/dress, stuck out like a turd in the punchbowl…..Some Good Ole Boy all decked out in cowboy-wear, says to me as I’m walkin out…”well hey there Doll, arent you quite the MILF” as he’s holding the door for me!!!!!
WTfreakingF??!! Soooo many things wrong with this. First off, AT BEST I’m probably “average” in the looks department, im sure only my style of dress had me stand out. And, I’m getting older! 42 now, so yeah, I guess it’s safe to “assume” I’m a mommy (hips don’t lie I guess?) BUT also, this guy was like at least 10 years older than me! AND, I thought cowboys were supposed to be all “chivalrous” and kind and gentlemanly??!! (But he DID hold the door open!)
it was just a very funny/awkward/random episode, to say the least. I mean…was I being VIOLATED or COMPLIMENTED?! Geez!
Post # 37
@BruinBeeMPH: I am the manager at a coffee stand and I purchase approximately 20 gallons of milk a day for the stand. I’m used to the weird looks and the “don’t forget milk!!” jokes, but one day I was going through the checkout lane and a lady gave me a HUGE judgmental speech about how breastfeeding was the best choice she ever made and that I shouldn’t subject my child to cow hormones. I was like “do you think I run an orphanage? How many babies do you think I have to warrant the purchase of 20 gallons of milk?!”
Also, I’m a natural redhead and it is VERY VERY red, and the amount of times I have been asked by perfect strangers if my hair is my natural color or “if the carpet matches the drapes” (yes seriously) is absolutely out of control. One woman at a store asked me what color my hair was, and I was like “…. red” and she said “I can see that, I was wondering the color of the dye.” I said “Oh haha it’s my natural hair color,” and she said, “I’m a hairstylist – your hair doesn’t grow out of your head that color.” Well, yes it does, I hate to break it to you.
Post # 38
I struggle with depression. I have since I was seven years old.
I get the “You have a life people are jealous of.. you have no right to be depressed.” Yes, because it’s a choice.
When I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer while pregnant in April, I got:
“At least it’s the good kind”
“Thyroid cancer is the common cold of cancer”
“You are SO LUCKY it’s nothing bad”
Post # 39
OK this might not be something rude that people SAY, however-
I have my ear lobes stretched to 5/8″ and have for about 15 years. I cannot count the amount of times people have stuck their fingers/pens/etc through my ear holes without asking. Just like OOOHH IS THAT REAL *poke.* On what planet is it ok to touch someone without asking? I get that they draw attention, and I absolutely don’t mind people asking about them or anything, but physically invading my space is a bit rude. Sometimes I want to whip my head around and act like I’m going to bite them, but I think it might only fuel the fire… 😉
Post # 40
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I used to work in a restaurant and every Saturday the first person “out” would run to the gas station next door to buy donuts for everyone else. One weekend we did that I was eating and the manager picked ME out of the crowd and said “you shouldn’t eat those everyday” because apparently I’m so fat I obviously eat donuts everyday.
Did I mention at the time I was 16 — like I didn’t already have enough self-esteem issues. 🙁
Said by the same person who told me to clock out and go home because the guy I was working with, and who had been working a good 6 hours longer that day than I, needed to work longer as he would soon be providing for a family and needed to learn a good work ethic.
Post # 41
My mother says hilariously rude things to me all the time – but it is a purely cultural thing and I have long since gotten rid of any sensitivities to it. Anyone else have cultural parents that start every conversation with “have you gained weight?” or “so and so’s daughter is at Yale/a Doctor/etc. Why didn’t you go to Yale?” I think my favourite is when my mother either buys me clothes or borrows my clothes and then acts ridiculously shocked that we are not the same size (she weighs about 100lbs soaking wet). “Aiee yaaaaaah these fit you?? They are so huge on me!!”. She’s awesome.
Post # 42
@BruinBeeMPH: I was at work one day while I was pregnant and a man asked me if I was “with child” I said yes and he asked if my husband was excited, I politely told him that I wasn’t married but I was very excited and he looked at me completely dumbfounded and said “you’re pregnant but you’re not married?” I said that he was correct and he promptly walked away about 5 minutes later the man points at me and literally screams across the store to his wife saying “LOOK HONEY, THAT GIRL IS PREGNANT AND SHE’S NOT EVEN MARRIED!!!!!!” Really?
Post # 43
This one just happened to me last week when we went to visit DH’s 83 year old Russian grandmother.
I woke up at 7 to get ready and make the drive to visit, and my Mother-In-Law tells Darling Husband that we can’t eat because his grandmother is making us a feast.
We arrive there at 11 am, I’m just running on a cup of coffee so I’m pretty hungry and by the time it’s 11:30 and food still doesn’t seem to be coming out, I pull grandma aside and say, “Is there any chance you have a little something I could eat now, just a piece of fruit or something?” Her immediate response: “OH! You are pregnant!”
I am a petite girl and didn’t take offense, I just asked her why she’d say that, if I look pregnant or something (I’m 100% not pregnant and we are not TTC), and she says, “Well, you know, pregnant ladies, they are hungry.”
Post # 44
@bkrocks13: Holy crap! People just reach out and mess with your *ear*?
Post # 45
@Ninteenthchance: lmao… oh the things I would have said in that situation (“No, I’m sorry, it’s illegal to marry my lover in this state” or “No, he’s currently incarcerated”)
Post # 46
I have naturally curly(ish) hair but blow dry and flat iron it straight nearly all the time. I wore it curly one day and my FI’s grandma said, “I like it like this. It’s so much more attractive than normal.”