Post # 47
@Birdee106: +1 About telling us to eat! I went to get fitted for my bM dress and brides mother was there.. why.. I dont know! So im tellinng the seamstress to make the dress tighter on my chest because it felt loose. Seamstress saying its good, but i felt it was loose. Mind you i have no boobs im a 30 Aa! So it needs to be very tight so it dont slip off! Anyway brides mother continues to tell me im insecure about my body bc im too skinny!!! On and on and on! No jm not too skinny and i am def. Not insecure about my body.. What i am insecure about is the dress slipping off and everyone seeing my nips!!
Post # 48
All of the “Casper” “vampire” “whitey” comments made by people regrding my fair skin. I’m a natural redhead and have very fair skin and don’t tan. In the summer I always get people telling me to “get some sun” like I’m some sort of hermit that must never see the light of day!
Post # 49
@NikkiKillpretty: Ugh… that’s so rude. I absolutely *love* red hair and fair skin. I just find women with those attributes beautifully stunning.
Post # 50
@stuckinwonderland: I struggle with depression too, and people have actually said to me “happiness is a choice”. Drives me absolutely mad.
On a related note, one time when I was going through a difficult break-up someone kept telling me that “the only person who can make you feel bad is you!” As someone who always blames myself when something goes wrong, even if it’s not my fault, it was truly fantastic to be told that my misery at the time was all my own fault too! /sarcasm
Post # 51
I’ve lost 25 pounds, and it has been taking me a while to get used to not wearing a sweater anymore. One day I wore a dressy top and black pants and then the next day I was back to my sweater and a receptionist says, “Girl, that thing makes you look old and frumpy and fat. The next time you wear that ugly thing I am going to tell you to take it off.”
Post # 52
@JulietFoxtrot: I hate that one, too!
Depression is no more in my control than the cancer… or diabetes for someone else… or PCOS… or whatever. It’s an actual illness. Why would anyone CHOOSE to be miserable? I just don’t even understand where people come up with this crap.
Post # 53
Oh, I’ve got some and they come from my mother.
On talking about my new ILs and me being married before, “You think they are going to believe that some 32 year old owns her own house?”
On my wedding:
“Why are you even excited about a wedding, you already live together?”
“Why do I even have to go? What’s the big deal?”
Post # 54
I look a lot younger than I am, and when people find out my real age, they always respond in some shocked manner…but not in a way that’s ‘Wow, you go girl! You look great!’ It’s more like, ‘Wow…what’s wrong with you?’
And my future Mother-In-Law constantly comments on how big my daughter is for her age. She’s 2 1/2 and is already in a size 3T-4T…she is TALL for her age, and has a belly, you know, like babies do, and she is always saying, “It’s not that she’s FAT, she’s just big…you know…I don’t think she’s FAT…” She’ll say ‘fat’ 5 times in the description, but swear she’s not calling her fat…sigh…
Post # 55
@stuckinwonderland: Oh! That’s another one. I have Type 1 diabetes, and I had a very opinionated elderly lady look at me in shock when I told her I’m diabetic and say “you really need to do something about that!” Okay… something like what? Continue managing it tightly on a daily basis like I’ve been doing for the past 22 years? Or perhaps go back in time 22 years to the tender age of 5 and prevent my own antibodies from destroying my pancreas?
Admittedly I’m not being entirely fair, as there’s currently a huge push by our Ministry of Health to try and slow down the increasing prevalence of Type 2 diabetes (T2DM) in our society by encouraging people to eat healthy foods and do more exercise, and many people in the general public don’t know that (a) there are other types of diabetes, and (b) even T2DM has a variety of causes, not just obesity. But regardless – being told that I need to “do something” about my medical condition by anyone other than my medical team (or my mother!) just seemed rude and unnecessary.
Post # 56
@JulietFoxtrot: I’m pretty ignorant on the topic, but I was under the impression that Type I diabetes there’s really nothing you can do to prevent it?
Post # 57
@stuckinwonderland: I wish I would have, I was just so shocked that he really thought that was an appropriate thing to say!!
Post # 58
@stuckinwonderland: Yep, that’s absolutely right. Type 1 diabetes is (at present) completely unpreventable, and has absolutely nothing to do with diet, exercise or weight. I got it as a skinny and sporty 5-year-old. It’s an auto-immune disease, which basically means that my own antibodies in my blood got confused, thought that the insulin-secreting cells in my pancreas were foreign cells (like bacteria or viruses), and so destroyed them. A simple (or not so simple) matter of confusing self with non-self, and mistakenly destroying self.
Type 2 diabetes is a different disease, and is preventable in some cases, but not in all cases. Unfortunately, the impression that most people have is that “diabetes” is one disease, with one cause (obesity), and that if you get diabetes it’s your own fault. This is nowhere close to being true.
Post # 59
@BruinBeeMPH: i used to have an hour commute on public transit – it was awful, and i had a job where i was on my feet all day so it was great when i could find a seat on the way home. this one day, i gave up my seat for this little old lady and stood beside her instead with my bags etc.
i yawned without covering my mouth, (because i had to hold on! and had my hands full) and she turned and said, ‘are you trying to catch flies with that mouth?’
i wanted to toss her tiny, shriveled, shrunken self out at the next stop. instead, on crowded transit i STOOD next to her for another 45 minutes.
Post # 60
“You would be so much prettier if you wore your hair straight” …because my kinky/curly hair makes me look like a wildebeest!
Post # 61
I used to work for an organization that had 200+ volunteers that were all over the age of 70, and I worked directly with them. They used to say the weirdest things to my boss (a good friend + young like me) and I. One told us once we shouldn’t eat candy because neither of us needed it. They also used to pick on my boss and tell her she didn’t have enough makeup on and would never find a man.
We always just laughed it off, but come on! lol.