(Closed) Ranking your bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, that seems like a joke that kind of fell flat…

We had an uneven wedding party, so two of my bridesmaids had to share a groomsmen.  So I put the ones that had to share closest to me, and the one that got her groomsman to herself last.  So that seemed fair.  And it worked out alphabetical, so it was easy to just say “line-up A, J, K” and not put any “ranking” into it.

Post # 4
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1736 posts
Bumble bee

Yikes…that’s pretty rude. While I understand that might be a normal way of lining the girls up – that joke certainly fell very flat. I just did mine based on how long I had known each one – starting with my sister/MOH and descending from there. It had nothing to do with ranking our friendships and I think that to even joke about that is pretty insensitive! Poor thing.

Post # 5
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is something I’ve been struggling with for a long time. I am thinking about just drawing straws. It would be SO much easier. also, I was in a wedding once, and it was done by weight, the heaviest girl on the inside, the thinnest on the outside. 

Post # 6
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I just put mine in order of how long I had known the person. You can’t argue the facts, and it doesn’t mean that if I’ve known you less time, we aren’t as close. Just an easy way to do it.

Post # 7
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4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

And this is why I didn’t have BMs. I hate the whole concept of ranking people — period! 

Every time I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man (lots), it’s been the Maid/Matron of Honor first, and then everyone else ranked by height. 

The officiant was making a terrible “joke,” if that’s what it was. Yikes.

Post # 8
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1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just put my two MOHs first, with my sister closest to me. After that, it went in order of height, shortest to tallest or vice versa, can’t even remember now. It was not important and I was not about to rank my friends.

Post # 9
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I didn’t put anyone in order either.  We had the GMs line up tallest to shortest, then I told the girls “Go stand beside a guy!” and that’s how it happened.  I did offer my pregnant cousin the chance to walk out last and take a seat in the front row as I walked in (since people would be looking at me not at the altar) and then she could stand up to rejoin her escort for the recessional.

Post # 10
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986 posts
Busy bee

Yikes! Not fun and super awkward situation 😐 

@Gemstone: I think that’s a great way to handle it! 

Post # 12
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow, that was really mean and rude. My maid and matron of honor will stand next to me (in that order) and the 3 bridesmaids will be lined up by height tallest to shortest.

Post # 13
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788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My goodness that is so mean! My maid of honour is my best friend from my childhood, then my younger cousin who grew up like my baby sister (as i dont have any sisters), and my other very close friend. I consider all three of these girls to be sisters to me and wouldn’t dream of ranking them. Maid/Matron of Honor got the title just because that’s been our agreement for years and years..

Post # 14
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5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wow.  My DOC told me and Darling Husband in private that that’s how they should be lined up, but the three of us were the only ones to ever know.  If she hadn’t told me that, we would have just done it by height.  It was really rude for him to say that in front of everyone.

Post # 15
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

hopefully he was making a bad joke!

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