(Closed) Ranking your bridesmaids

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
433 posts
Helper bee



I’ve been the bottom ranking Bridesmaid or Best Man twice and it never bothered me.  It’s an honour to be up there at all.  However, I would feel uncomfortable about the minister making those jokes.  That was pretty mean.

Funny thing about being the “low man” is that you walk up the aisle first and everyone sees you in the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress before the other girls haha

Post # 18
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

oh wow. I will probably go by height.

Post # 19
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’ve been told that’s how it goes too, and I think that’s probably what weddings I have been in before have done, but I honestly never really though about it. And to put the bride on the spot like that is really rude and awkward. 

For us my fiance’s side is his best man, sister, step-sister, then groomsman (friend). So just best man and then his sisters because they are family, so no awkward choices. I am doing my two sisters (both maids of honor, probably my older sister first just because she’s older). Then I have 2 friends, but one is married to his groomsman so I figured she would just walk last to be paired up with him. I guess we are lucky we didn’t have to decide any sort of ranking or anything.

Post # 20
2633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think I may rank by age. My oldest cousin (who is most like my older sister) as Matron of Honour, my 2 cousins as Bridesmaid or Best Man (I decided by age because I couldn’t choose) and then my Fiance cousin then my friend, then my little cousin as Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man. I am lucky because i believe going by age also so happens to rank in decending height too. 

Post # 21
5279 posts
Bee Keeper

My Maid/Matron of Honor will of course be first then I will probably go by height form there. I could never put my friends in order by who I was more close with. Fiance doesnt have a bestman so I’m just going to pair everyone up with who looks best together based on height

Post # 22
15 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have four. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and his sister is the one I’m least closest too. But the two in the middle are both really close friends (who aren’t close to each other) and I know they’ll read into the order I put them in. So I told my Fiance to decide the order for his groomsmen and I’m pairing those two girls with the guys that best suit them in height. 

Post # 23
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I always thought it was supposed to be done by height (MOH excepted).

That being said Fiance did his by how well he knew them and then I did ordered my BMs by height of groomsmen (eg. tallest bridesmaid went with tallest groomsman). I also had one Bridesmaid or Best Man that was quite nervous about being a Bridesmaid or Best Man so I put her with the guy I thought would be the least intimidating/kindest.

Post # 24
3460 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah that was a bad joke. 

I went by age I knew them.  So sister (MOH) first of course.  Then my cousin, then my sister-in-law (my brother’s wife).  The SIL actually said she ought to be there/figured she would be, so it wasn’t an awkward issue.  More problematic was the guys on the other side lined up wrong, so we had to correct that and tell them to switch it around.  Although in that case, I could at least say I was matching height to the bridesmaids bc the two end bridesmaids and groommen are very tall comparatively to the next set.

Post # 25
2390 posts
Buzzing bee

How terribly awkward. 

Post # 26
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Wow, what a bad joker of an officiant!  How rude!  I haven’t really thought about what I’ll be doing but obviously my Maid/Matron of Honor (best friend since middle school) will be closest to me.  The other BMs are my younger sisters and Future Sister-In-Law.  So, middle sister, baby sister and Future Sister-In-Law will fall in line after Maid/Matron of Honor, I guess.

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