(Closed) Rant about guests

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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359 posts
Helper bee

I had a bridesmaid who lives in Nevada back out and tell me she wouldn’t be able to come to my wedding in Georgia because she may be losing her job and wouldn’t be able to afford it.  However, I lost my job in January of 2011 and had already obligated myself to be in HER wedding, so my fiance and I spent $2K to go out there.  What really chaps my ass is that she’s constantly posting stuff about trips she’s taking on FB.  Her husband went to Vegas for a “guy’s week” and was talking about dropping $500 at the tables.  (I told her we would have a place for her to stay, AND get her to and from the airport, so she would only have to pay for an airline ticket.)  Around Christmas, she and her husband took his 3 kids to California for a week.  AND, she bought him a *HUGE* gun safe.  (Granted, he is a deputy and DOES need to keep his guns locked up around the kids…)  Yeah, I’m a little miffed too…  >.<

Post # 4
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

This happened for my wedding too. It’s sad and disappointing, but it also shows you who your real friends are.

Post # 5
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4073 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

On a similar theme yes.  The thing that annoys me is all the complaining about it.  If it were me I would do everything (and I mean everything) within my power to make it to an important event like this.  Forgo my vaction, hitch a ride, etc.  People are so self absorbed sometimes.

If you want you can read my post: He’s only emigrating… <rant> (it’s Not Wedding Related, but I know how you feel!)

Post # 6
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1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m very sorry to hear that your friend might not be able to make it. But, it is unreasonable to be upset at her for not being able to afford to come to your wedding. You don’t know her finances.

Post # 7
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359 posts
Helper bee

@Lemma: I think you’re missing the point…the wedding is over a year away.  Put away $10 a week for the next year and you’ll have MORE than enough.  To me, it says, “You’re not important enough for me to put forth the effort.”

Post # 8
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1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@FlutterbyBee: Maybe she’s living paycheck to paycheck. Maybe she’s in debt already. You never know with these things. Even if she could afford it, it still would seem quite rude to me to be upset that a friend isn’t willing to spend her hard earned money on me.

Post # 9
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 

 

 

If shes spending her money on the things above, which is not a neccesity, then she should be putting money aside for your wedding. Trips, a trip to Vegas,etc,etc is definately an extra! Totally agree flutterbybee. I think she just didnt want to go. If she did, she would have put her money into her trip to the wedding, not other things that are considered extras in life.

@FlutterbyBee: Above^

This is true at least with your Bridesmaid or Best Man. What was the outcome of your situation?

Post # 11
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@futuremrsparsons: You know though I figure that if people really want to come, they will do what they can to go. But if they dont want to, then they wont even try to make it.

At least you now know  and you wont have to worry about having difficulties later on with her. Ive noticed that people who dont want to go,but say they do,are big pains through the planning and then they aventually say they cant come.

You’ve probably saved yourself some grief.

Oh and instead of going back there this year and next year , save that money for your wedding, honeymoon or even a house.

Good luck!

Post # 12
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m the opposite! From Alberta, living in Ontario for 6 years, getting married back home in Alberta where everyone can easily come. The major downside is that I don’t feel comfortable inviting friends out here. I’d like them to come to my wedding but I seriously feel like a little brat asking them to pay for a round trip flight to get out there. Mostly just family has ever come to visit me. I definitely feel like we’re the ones making the effort to keep visiting, too. Thing is though, we have many people back home we are going to see and if they come out here it is really just to see us. It sucks and I sympathize big time, but it’s not so much your friends in particular as it is just… how it is.

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