(Closed) Rant about losing weight

posted 8 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

people are beyond rude sometimes! i am so sorry people have said that shit to you 🙁 good for you for being happy with who you are! i always said i didnt get the mania to lose weight just for your wedding, since clearly your Fiance loves you as you are!

i am a 14/16 and i havent heard any of that crap, but i have lost about 25lbs since i got engaged so maybe thats saved me. it has little to do with the wedding. i really want to be as healthy as i can be when we have kids, and unlike you, i definitely was eating junk food and being lazy!

Post # 4
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@goodgenie:   I am so sorry you’re having to put up with such rudeness!  If someone says it again, tell them you won’t even dignify such a rude comment with an answer, and walk away.

Good for you for having a healthy, happy lifestyle and good for you for accepting yourself, at any size!  That’s so wonderful, I love hearing women who have embraced their own inner (and outer) Goddess!!  And you’re marrying the man you love, who loves you in all your beauty and glory, just the way you ARE.


Post # 5
5398 posts
Bee Keeper

I think the reason people feel like they can discuss weight loss is because it’s tied to health, whereas lip size and hair color aren’t. I can definitely understand being hurt by those kinds of comments, but it’s so ingrained in our society that thin=good, it’s hard to get away from this mindset. The stereotype of overweight lazy people doesn’t help either, but as long as you’re happy with yourself, that’s all that matters! I’m sure you will be a beautiful bride!

Post # 6
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

uuuugh, people!!!!!  I feel ya sista!

Yes, this sucks.  The only consolation (and it’s not) is that they will do it to you all over again when you get pregnant or as they ask when you are going to have a baby.  then they’ll look at you as if they just watched you beat your baby, smoke some crack or down a 1/5 of vodka……. It’s maddening.

I am also not planning on losing weight for my wedding.  No one’s bugging me about it, cuz it’s basically just my family and they love me as I am 🙂

I’m about a size 20.  Have been since college.  I fall into the “fit but fat” category, that anyone skinny, any nutritionist or dietician and most of the health care professionals don’t really want to admit exists. 
Yesterday I biked almost 3 miles.  I make healthy meals and *try* to get as much exercise as I can. 
I go to Dr appts and they say “we’re going to need to talk about your blood pressure”.  I say “do you want to take it first?” 
They sort of 1/2 laugh and then take my blood pressure.  “oh, 110/68.  Well, it’s fine now…. but it’s just a matter of time. What about your blood surgar?”  
Me:  “we checked that the last 4 times I was here.  it was fine.  I bet it’s still fine, but we can re-check it fi you want.” 

REALLY?  I’m 40.  Suck it.

Here is what I will tell you.  My sister is OBSESSIVE about working out and what she eats.  Like, in the not really healthy category.  She does weight training and light cardio EVERY MORNING from 5-5:30 and THEN takes a spinning class 4X a week.  She eats like a bird.  AND IS STILL A SIZE 14.  I’m just not willing to basically work an extra job working out AND STILL not be thin. 

So, I’ll stay at my “natural’ weight.  I’ll exercise and eat healthy.  So…. there!!!!!!!!

TANGENT………I actually LOST weight when I was pregnant, though.  And my Dr said “well, that’s what it’s like when something inside you has a metablism”  hahahahaha.  He was my 2nd Dr.  The first told me I needed to lose 80 pounds before he would feel “comfortable” with me being pregnant.  I said….. If I lost 80 pounds I’d weigh less than I weighed in jr High and I’m already pregnant so we better get comfortable quick!  He then told me to cut out dessert after dinner.  I said “what do I do if I don’t eat dessert?”  He said “cut out the potato chips and soda”.  I said “don’t eat ’em…. throw another at me”.  He just glared.  So, I found a new Dr and it went MUCH better.

Congrats on your wedding!  I’d love to see pics of your dress!

Post # 7
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You sound like you are plenty healthy in the way you eat and exercise and good for you for being happy with your figure! Maybe if someone brings it up again, say something like “Oh, I’m sorry you think I’d be more beautiful if I were thinner, but I think I’m beautiful and I love my curves.”

Post # 9
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@goodgenie:  thanks! and you are rocking that dress!!! you look amazing!!! who makes it???



Post # 10
13896 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@goodgenie:  You look fantastic in the dress!  It fit’s your figure really well.  Don’t take their comments personally.  I wear a size 4/6 and I’ve been getting the same question!  “Going to add a few extra situps?” “Your arms could use some toning..”  Seriously?  Ugh!  Some people just can’t be 100% happy for you!   If you’re happy and healthy, size doesn’t matter! 

Post # 11
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That is incredibly rude. I don’t know why anyone thinks it’s ok to ask a person something like that, I can totally understand why you would be upset/annoyed with it. I think you look amazing in your dress!

Post # 12
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@3xaCharm:  I’m surprised doctors are giving you so much trouble, size 20 isn’t that big, depending on the person.

In general, it’s best to eat healthy and exercise–and whatever weight you fall into while doing that is probably what is best for you–your set point if you will


I’m not plus sized but not skinny–and people ask me how much weight I plan to lose for the wedding all the time–because brides are notorious for going on crash diets–whatever if I don’t like how I look in the pics I’m photoshopping lol

Post # 13
2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

ugh people are soo rude smh

Post # 14
3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

People suck.  Health isn’t determined solely by the number on the scale.  You’re happy and healthy.  That’s all that matters.

Wow at your dress!  You look amazing.  Where is the dress from?

Post # 16
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That’s so rude! I’m sorry people would even say that. I don’t have any advice but I’m willing to commiserate that people can be horrible. Your dress is beautiful!

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