Rant about preloved dresses. You only wore it once because it’s a wedding dress!

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, you getting it for 80% of the original cost is still better than having to pay 100%…. So I wouldn’t complain too much.

Post # 5
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@nanacholito:  I totally get what you’re saying! Personally, if I’m looking to buy a preloved dress, I’m looking for a substainal discount. 20 or 30% off doesn’t really make it worth my time if I have to pay for it to be cleaned and/or altered for me.

The “it’s only been worn once” statement is comic, though…frustrating but comic.

Post # 6
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

If you live in the U.S. or a country that has thrift stores try one of those types of stores. I know I live near several like Goodwill Industries, St. Vincent DePaul, Salvation Army and Giant Village.  There are also higher end second-hand stories to consider.

Post # 7
2892 posts
Sugar bee

I think people just don’t understand how to properly price things sometimes. If there’s a difference of only $300 between a preowned 1K dress and new, I’m buying new. Why? Because it’s worth $300 to me to have something brand new and fitted to me and not someone else. For $300 you aren’t creating an enticing sale and I don’t think they understand that. Yeah, it’s not full price, but it’s also used. 

Post # 8
9819 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Things can usually be negotiated, I see this a lot on Ebay and jewelry sites too, where people will try to sell a ring they owned for 10 years and paid $2000 for $1950. Um, that’s not a steal! Dress shopping is so buyer specific though, I feel like if you negotiate most people would rather sell it and recoup at least SOME of what they spent than risk not having anyone else be interested. You can always make a time sensitive offer as well, like “I’m interested in this dress but my budget is $550 and I’d like to have something purchased by Friday. Let me know if you can work with that number, thank you very much!” Then they know that you’re serious, but you’re not going to be paying practically full price for a used dress they probably don’t care about keeping.

Post # 9
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree. I would only buy a pre-owned dress if I were going to save at least 50% off the original price. That’s how they are generally priced at the consignment shops I visited, anyway. I actually bought a dress with tags on it at consignment for 50% off the retail, so I’m not sure how people can get away with charging 80% when it’s been worn!

FWIW, I feel the same way about anything I buy on craigslist. If it’s used, you should only be paying 50% (max 60%) of the original retail- less if it’s not “gently” used.

Post # 10
10363 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Except then you get to resell it as well, possibly for 100% of the cost you paid for it, so you might pay nothing in the end to wear it.

I really don’t understand why you’re upset.

Post # 11
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes – I think this is hilarious, on any of those sites or kijiji etc. I think the only thing that can justify a somewhat higher price is never worn and designer, but other than that I roll my eyes when I see “Only Worn Once $$$$$” etc.

Post # 12
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Dunno, I’m a firm believer that if something is priced too high, the seller won’t be able to sell it. I don’t let it irritate me; I just move on to buy from someone else.

But on the “only worn once” thing… there are plenty of brides who wear their dresses to a photo shoot a few days or weeks before/after the wedding, and sometimes those photo shoots take a long time and are in “offbeat” locations.  If I’m scanning an ad, i’d like to know that the dress has only been worn for a few hours in the ceremony and reception, and not for half a day’s worth of photos in Central Park, or to the local reception of a Destination Wedding, and such.  Yes, most brides do only wear it once, but there’s enough that don’t that I don’t mind having it called out.

Post # 14
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@nanacholito:  I agree with you 100%… I’d have a big problem with the idea that I’m actually paying MORE for a dress that has already been worn, than the bride who bought it brand new.  Also, the chances of selling it a second time are pretty slim…it’s already hard enough to sell a second hand dress, never mind a third hand one.

Used dresses should be less than half price.

Post # 15
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I couldn’t agree more!  The person selling the dress wore it new.  The second person wearing it wears it used.  If a woman pays $1000.00 for a dress and sells it for $700.00, it essentially cost her $300.  So she wore a dress that was tailored and altered to her size, and paid $300.00 while the second person is wearing a used dress for $700.00. 

The response I have for you is that, if someone is willing to pay for the bulk of the cost, why not ask?  I totally agree with you, but if someone wanted to buy my used dress for only a small percentage less than I paid for it, I’d do it!!  Ha ha!

Post # 16
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I found a dress I love pre-owned for 60% off the paid price. Granted its a size bigger than I need, I haven’t found a better deal so I’m definitely keeping that as an option. If only I could choose between dresses.

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