Post # 1
Sorry but I need to get this off my chest and see if others agree.
I’ve been looking at preloved dresses as reception dress possibilities (getting married overseas, having reception at home) and I cannot get over how much people want back from their wedding dress purchases!
From what I see, so many people want the 2nd buyer to cop the bulk of the payment! How is it reasonable to only pay 20 percent of the cost for a dress you went out and purchased for yourself and then sell your used dress expecting someone else to pick up 80 percent of your costs? You’ve USED the dress for all is worth to you!
It’s irking me to no end that I see people excusing the high prices with “it’s only been worn once” … of course it’s only been worn once! It’s a wedding dress! And because of what it is, you’ve essentially used it entirely. You’ve used up its valid lifespan for you because that’s what its purpose is and yet you’re treating it like a garment you can wear more than once? Wearing a wedding dress and having it altered etc. is essentially like owning a car for a decade.
Sorry! End rant. I will continue to look at dresses lol
Post # 3
Well, you getting it for 80% of the original cost is still better than having to pay 100%…. So I wouldn’t complain too much.
Post # 4
@chasesgirl I guess my point is that a wedding dress isn’t like a normal garment. It’s just confusing to me that people buy a 1k dress for example and want you to pay 700. That means they want to, at the end of the day, only pay 300 for the dress that is now altered for their body, worn, and as I was trying to point out, essentially used up as much as a wedding dress can be for a person. Not bagging out preloved, I think it’s great, I just don’t understand how second hand works in wedding dress world. If you use a car up for its lifetime you’re not going to sell it at 70-80 percent cost.
Guess what I was trying to point out doesn’t resonate with you though 🙂
oh well, I got to buy my wedding dress new and only just ventured into preloved to look at reception dresses. Was just a bit confused is all. I’ll stick with my dress, should stop finding an excuse to break the bank further and wear it for the reception lol
Post # 5
@nanacholito: I totally get what you’re saying! Personally, if I’m looking to buy a preloved dress, I’m looking for a substainal discount. 20 or 30% off doesn’t really make it worth my time if I have to pay for it to be cleaned and/or altered for me.
The “it’s only been worn once” statement is comic, though…frustrating but comic.
Post # 6
If you live in the U.S. or a country that has thrift stores try one of those types of stores. I know I live near several like Goodwill Industries, St. Vincent DePaul, Salvation Army and Giant Village. There are also higher end second-hand stories to consider.
Post # 7
I think people just don’t understand how to properly price things sometimes. If there’s a difference of only $300 between a preowned 1K dress and new, I’m buying new. Why? Because it’s worth $300 to me to have something brand new and fitted to me and not someone else. For $300 you aren’t creating an enticing sale and I don’t think they understand that. Yeah, it’s not full price, but it’s also used.
Post # 8
Things can usually be negotiated, I see this a lot on Ebay and jewelry sites too, where people will try to sell a ring they owned for 10 years and paid $2000 for $1950. Um, that’s not a steal! Dress shopping is so buyer specific though, I feel like if you negotiate most people would rather sell it and recoup at least SOME of what they spent than risk not having anyone else be interested. You can always make a time sensitive offer as well, like “I’m interested in this dress but my budget is $550 and I’d like to have something purchased by Friday. Let me know if you can work with that number, thank you very much!” Then they know that you’re serious, but you’re not going to be paying practically full price for a used dress they probably don’t care about keeping.
Post # 9
I agree. I would only buy a pre-owned dress if I were going to save at least 50% off the original price. That’s how they are generally priced at the consignment shops I visited, anyway. I actually bought a dress with tags on it at consignment for 50% off the retail, so I’m not sure how people can get away with charging 80% when it’s been worn!
FWIW, I feel the same way about anything I buy on craigslist. If it’s used, you should only be paying 50% (max 60%) of the original retail- less if it’s not “gently” used.
Post # 10
Except then you get to resell it as well, possibly for 100% of the cost you paid for it, so you might pay nothing in the end to wear it.
I really don’t understand why you’re upset.
Post # 11
Yes – I think this is hilarious, on any of those sites or kijiji etc. I think the only thing that can justify a somewhat higher price is never worn and designer, but other than that I roll my eyes when I see “Only Worn Once $$$$$” etc.
Post # 12
Dunno, I’m a firm believer that if something is priced too high, the seller won’t be able to sell it. I don’t let it irritate me; I just move on to buy from someone else.
But on the “only worn once” thing… there are plenty of brides who wear their dresses to a photo shoot a few days or weeks before/after the wedding, and sometimes those photo shoots take a long time and are in “offbeat” locations. If I’m scanning an ad, i’d like to know that the dress has only been worn for a few hours in the ceremony and reception, and not for half a day’s worth of photos in Central Park, or to the local reception of a Destination Wedding, and such. Yes, most brides do only wear it once, but there’s enough that don’t that I don’t mind having it called out.
Post # 13
haha thank you previous posters, I thought I was the only one who felt you should get a bigger discount for knowing someone’s most likely had a raunchy night of wedding bliss already in the dress.
@crayfish I’m not upset, just weirded out 🙂 I find there are a lot of dresses priced ridiculously on used websites. As I mentioned, the lifespan of a wedding dress is very different to other garments and that should be considered. Also, if I ever resold my dress I’d keep in mind what I preach and wouldn’t sell it at 100 percent. I feel it’s sort of different for the white dress 🙂
Post # 14
@nanacholito: I agree with you 100%… I’d have a big problem with the idea that I’m actually paying MORE for a dress that has already been worn, than the bride who bought it brand new. Also, the chances of selling it a second time are pretty slim…it’s already hard enough to sell a second hand dress, never mind a third hand one.
Used dresses should be less than half price.
Post # 15
I couldn’t agree more! The person selling the dress wore it new. The second person wearing it wears it used. If a woman pays $1000.00 for a dress and sells it for $700.00, it essentially cost her $300. So she wore a dress that was tailored and altered to her size, and paid $300.00 while the second person is wearing a used dress for $700.00.
The response I have for you is that, if someone is willing to pay for the bulk of the cost, why not ask? I totally agree with you, but if someone wanted to buy my used dress for only a small percentage less than I paid for it, I’d do it!! Ha ha!
Post # 16
I found a dress I love pre-owned for 60% off the paid price. Granted its a size bigger than I need, I haven’t found a better deal so I’m definitely keeping that as an option. If only I could choose between dresses.