(Closed) Rant about preloved dresses. You only wore it once because it’s a wedding dress!

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Haha. I saw a post on eBay the other day for a VS Bridal tank that said “NWOT” (New Without Tags) and in the description, she said that she listed it as NWOT because it was worn once on her honeymoon. My reaction was “How is it ‘new’ when it’s been ‘worn once’???”

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

When you look at the listings of sold dresses on preownedweddingdresses.com, you’ll see that the selling price is often a lot less than the seller’s asking price! It’s probably like pricing a house – and for a buyer it doesn’t necessarily hurt to lowball your first bid, because it could pay off!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think the same thing when I see dresses that are 20% off and have been worn. When I see that kind of a discount on dresses new with tags I don’t mind, but when it’s been worn I think it’s fair to ask for 50% of what you paid for it. Why should someone getting something second hand pay more than what you did when you got to wear it brand new? Not to say the dress isn’t in great shape, but it is still used. 

As @sweetcrackers said, I think a lot of people make an offer and the buyer accepts it because no one wants to pay a high asking price and they probably don’t get too many offers.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I agree that it should be marked down more than that, however just because it’s been used up for all it’s usefullness to 1 person, doesn’t mean it’s been used up as a garment. As long as it’s not stained, ripped, ect, it’s just as useful to the buyer as a new dress. It’s really only the seller’s business how they price their dress. If it doesn’t sell, that means it was overpriced and they’ll either have to change it or just not make a sale. If it does sell, obviously the demand for that dress was great enough that someone felt it was worth it to purchase the dress at 80% of the original cost. If you’re frustrated by not getting a deep enough discount on a used-once dress, all you can do is wait for one to be sold for less, or negotiate! 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The used wedding industry is almost as frustrating at times as the wedding industry itself.

I see it all the time on the Weddingbee classifieds…by the time you pay shipping, you’re better off running down to the local craft store and buying the thing new. 

I can understand PP frustration…but I can also see the other side, and after you dish out thousands of dollars for the wedding, it’s nice to have something (the dress) that you might be able to make some of that back on and it’s hard not to be selfish and make the original asking price high.  Although at some point, you need to come down to earth….there’s been an ad on our local Craigslist since the beginning of the year for a $500 used dress bought at David’s bridal.  The last time I checked, you were able to buy it at David’s bridal new for $499…

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah, I hve to agree, OP. 

I think it’s the attitude of “oh, I’m going to make my money back” that bothers me. I mean, you can do whatever you want, but in the end, I think that most brides should see any money they get on selling the dress as a bonus, not as “recouping the cost”–especially because unless someone else buys it, it either sits in the closet or gets donated, neither of which make money. For most brides, a savings of a few hundred dollars is not enough to NOT buy it new.  

I guess it’s one thing if you have a one-of-a-kind Vera that is no longer made or something, but I’d often get on the site and think, “Are these brides crazy?? The dress was altered for the original wearer. That means that if I buy it, I’d probably have to get alterations on it myself. And pay for cleaning (because no matter what you claim, I’d still probably clean it). And any repairs. And shipping. And when you add all that up, it’s probably going to be close to the original sticker price. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree that people have very unrealistic expectations of what they can sell their used wedding items for – especially since many brides are starting with a marked-up bridal salon price to begin with.  For instance, the bridal salon I purchased my dress at charged $450 more than Pearl’s Place was selling it – also brand new!  If I were to try to sell it used for 80% of the marked-up retail price, I’d still be charging more for it than someone could buy it for NEW if they were a smart shopper!  

(BTW I did bring the pricing to the salon’s attention and they kindly gave me a price adjustment for the difference of $450 – so bargain hunting does pay, and even the salon pricing can be negotiated)

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

I do think it’s kind of crazy to discount a used wedding dress 20% and act like it’s a ‘steal’ (most brides I think would rather pay the extra hundred or so bucks and get a brand new dress; plus, that means the former bride only ends up paying 20% for her wedding dress!) The ones that are 60% or so off; heck yeah! Those are awesome. I do understand people only taking 15-25% off dresses that are new with tags, because they’ve never been worn, so they’re losing money by selling the dress for less than a store would!

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I purchased a preowned dress because I’m an encore bride and didn’t want to couldn’t invest a lot. I was very fortunate to find the dress of my dreams. I am a very petite bride so I felt lucky to find a dress which ended up being a perfect fit. All I had to do was have it hemmed, which ironically cost almost as much as the dress itself. I offered the seller a little less than she was asking and she gladly accepted. She said size 2 dresses aren’t in demand and she had a baby on the way so needed to sell the dress. It worked out for both of us.

I may try to sell it now that my wedding is over, but don’t have high hopes of finding a 5′ 1″ bride who needs a size 2 wedding gown. I had it hemmed to wear barefooted on the beach. Either way, I’m happy, even if I keep it. I think the preowned dress sites are an amazing idea and I strongly encourage you to ask the seller if she is willing to negotiate. You may be pleasantly surprised. Good luck!

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@kscaggs:  My sister sold her 5′ size 0 gown pretty quickly…I was shocked. She had even had it taken in slightly because the 0 was too big for her. You’d be surprised.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just figure market economy.  If it’s priced too high, they’ll never sell it.  It has to be worth it to both sides.  For example, I bought a casual wedding dress to wear reception night and changed my mind.  Original it was $250, I offered it for $50 never worn, but someone wanted $35.  I choose not to sell because at that point, it was getting to where it wasn’t worth my time to take it to the post office – I’d prefer to donate it instead.  Do I still have it instead of $35?  Yes.  Am I ok with my decision?  Yes.  I can always see about selling or donating it post wedding.

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@les105:  That is encouraging! Thanks for sharing! I’d be happy to sell it for 20% of what I paid for it.Smile

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ha! “Only worn six times” would be a much better story!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

People negotiate price.

I’m selling my gown for 650 with two veils and those, all together, cost me around $1200. That’s almost half off. I think that’s a great price. You can get a cheaper version of my dress for that, but it wont look the same, just a cheaper version.. and you can go to the bridal shop and get it for 4000-5000.

The first time I almost sold it, but pulled out, was for 1000, but I wasn’t going to be wearing it.

If you like the dress, but don’t like the price, then negotiate! Don’t complain.

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I agree with you that sometimes sellers can be quite ridiculous on their asking price BUT it is just an asking price, if they are willing to negotiate you can score deals. I definitely would not buy a dress worn that would save me 20%, I would buy it new with coupons thank you very much. Smile

@kimberlyr22-I have seen some of the same posts in my area, I wonder if it is the same poster? What is absolutely funny to me is the old dresses from the 80’s and someone wants $1000 for it? Really $1000 when clearly that version is in the thrift stores for maybe $20 at the most but hey that is ny opinion and it is what it is worth to that seller. Just in case you needed proof http://miami.craigslist.org/pbc/clo/2946962972.html

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