(Closed) Rant about preloved dresses. You only wore it once because it’s a wedding dress!

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I agree. Unless the dress is obscenely priced to start with, I’d rather pay 20% more and get a brand new gown. Girls trying to make the money back they spent on their outrageous weddings is just . . . kind of polluting the preowned dress market.

Post # 33
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Hell im selling my brand new dresses..never worn and still have tags on them for literally half off or buy one get one free because i want them out of my house.

Post # 34
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Genesis31:  That’s priceless!  We have those too…is there still a market for those gowns?  I laugh at the ones that are $300…I can’t imagine trying for $1000. It reminds me of going to yardsales and seeing 27″ tube televisions for $100…sure it still works, but if you want to get rid of that thing it needs a “free” sign on it.  My favorite is when they advertise those dresses and mention, “will include the hat for free!”.  Maybe the 80s/early 90s will come back in style soon and she can get her asking price.

Post # 35
7960 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think 40- 50% off of what a bride originally paid is good deal for a pre-owed dress.  what do you think is fair?

Post # 36
1171 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I saw one on Craigslist that said…”I have a wedding dress that has only been worn once. It is a large white gown with a beaded bust. Paid 300.00 for the gown. Asking 250 or best offer. I am 5’0 and weigh 132. Its a slim fitting dress.Still in bag.”


I know it’s just a starting point, but still!  lol. 

Post # 37
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Personally I would rather buy a used dress than a sample that has been tried on multiple times.  Several of them were so dirty and missing beads by the armpits.

It’s your prerogative to not purchase the dress if you don’t agree with the price.  I don’t think they should part with it for less than they want.

Post # 38
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I looked at a bunch of websites that had preloved dresses and the price was still too high for me. The only place I really considered purchasing was from Church St. Bridal. But, I ended up buying a custom made gown off ebay. Brand new, and made especially for me. 🙂

Post # 39
32 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

The reason the ads say “only worn once” might be to imply that it was purchased new and has only had one owner (so far). 


Post # 40
13 posts

I honestly wouldn’t buy a preowned wedding dress for anything more than half the original selling price, if that. Why would I pick up more than half the cost for a dress that you’ve worn (as much as you’re ever going to) and had altered to your body? Also, if I buy a preowned wedding dress, I’m taking a risk — I can’t take it back to the store if it ends up not as described. I probably won’t even have been able to try it on to see whether it looks good on me. That’s a pretty scary proposition.

So, the discount had better be steep. I can see paying around 35-40% of the price for the dress — as I see it, it’s sort of close to splitting the cost, with the 10-15% deduction because the seller got the benefit of having it as a totally new, pristine item, and also most likely had it altered to her specifications, so it’s not really the same as a new dress in that regard, either, and because of the risk of buying a dress I’ve probably never been able to try on, that might be difficult to re-alter to fit me, from someone who is not a store.

Post # 41
2419 posts
Buzzing bee

There’s a well-documented tendency (it has a name, but it escapes me just now) for people to overestimate the resale value of things they already own. Not just wedding dresses (although it definitely applies!) but cars, houses, a musical instrument, whatever. The original owner tends to factor in the original price plus all their emotional investment in the item, and they set an unrealistically high selling price. Secondhand buyers, on the other hand, have none of the emotional attachment, and all of the power in the world to negotiate an offer they think is fair. Like PPs have said, it’s fine to make a lowball offer and set a timeframe for negotiation. It’s also good to remember that sellers often pitch their offering prices high because they *expect* to negotiate, and it sets a benchmark in the direction that favors them.

Post # 42
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree that I personally wouldn’t also buy a pre-loved dress unless it’s over 50% off. However, as a dress owner who is selling her wedding dress, it really hurts to sell something you paid yourself for such a low price.

My dress is being sold for half the price I paid for it new. I also had to pay over $100 to get it professionally dry-cleaned. It’s a dress which is in the current collection and ultimately, it’s still more than $1000 cheaper than a new dress. For me, it’s like this is my final price. If no one wants it, too bad. I’d rather keep it in the garage or whatever.

As someone said, it’s a free market economy.

Post # 43
7103 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@redband:  However, as a dress owner who is selling her wedding dress, it really hurts to sell something you paid yourself for such a low price. Agree.

I would however consider buying a pre-owned dress for a dress I’m only going to wear once

Post # 44
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think MORE than half off is necessarily fair. If I was looking for a used dress, I’d expect to get 30-50% off but not more than that unless it had something wrong with it.

Post # 45
3076 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@nanacholito:  I look at the prices of wedding dresses and am amazed as well. Like a PP said, these are so specific and then they are altered to the original bride. An expectation for selling something at 20% off is not very realistic. Try a minimum of 50% off, people.

And then there are the dresses from a decade or two ago listed for hundreds of dollars. Really? Not old enough to be vintage, just old enough to be comically outdated.

People are never realistic about what their stuff is worth. In The Millionaire Next Door, (book) one of the wealthiest group of people who have middle class incomes are auctioneers. I always tink it’s because they see homw much people’s stuff goes for at sales, penniers on the doolar,a nd these auctioneers learn not to spend money on stuff, to save it instead.

Post # 46
3931 posts
Honey bee

I agree just from the shear fact that you’re usually getting something that was totally altered to fit someone else, and the possible costs incurred from trying to make it fit you properly could outweigh the initial savings. I also noticed how high pre-owned dresses seemed to be on those sites, and didn’t bother giving it a second thought.

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