(Closed) Rant: bridesmaid's date

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1033 posts
Bumble bee

That’s her decision. As much as it sucks. If she brings him, make sure you tell your photog to exclude him in a lot of photos. The last thing you want is a ton of pics of some random who broke your BFF’s heart. 

Post # 4
65 posts
Worker bee

It sounds like you want the best for your friend, and it was super generous of you to pay for her travel costs!  It is unfortunate that she is choosing this guy, but I would let it go.  Like you said, it will make her happy and will have minimal effect on you.

Post # 5
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I can understand why, as a friend, that’s hard.  But unfortunately, as PP said, it’s her decision and at the end of the day it’s on her if these men are showing their true colors and she continues to pursue them vs. someone who might actually be able to commit to her. I’m of the mind that I’d rather be single (even at a wedding) than dating someone terrible, but I know not everyone feels that way.

Post # 6
348 posts
Helper bee

Is it possible that he just wants to come because he thinks he’ll get a free vacation out of it? You wouldn’t be paying for his travel expenses (except the hotel room they’d be sharing), right? Then I’d say let it go as long as your other friends are ready at the helm to deal with him if/when he causes drama. 

Post # 7
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Yes, you can shove him off the pier. And that’s one photo you’ll be happy to have!

Post # 8
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Deeeeeppppppp breathes. Being a good friend is supre hard, particularly when your friend has a bumpy history in this department. But you’d be doing the right thing by letting it go. Particularly because she technically has a “plus one” already established it sounds like. It will make her happy, you’ll hardly remember it in the long run (hopefully nothing cray-cray happens) and life will move on. 

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