- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2018
I just need to whine, mostly, because I know I’m pretty much obligated to give in here, but at the same time, it’s the wooooorst.
My wedding is going to be tiny. It’s going to be 20 of my closest, immediate family members, my fiance’s immediate family members, and my two best friends, who are in my wedding party with my sister. It’s a destination wedding, specifically so we could keep it tiny and only have the people who mean the most to us there. Everyone who is coming is married, except for one of my best friends, so everyone will have a ‘partner’ at the wedding and won’t have to be alone, except for that one friend, though it’s a small group and everyone is very friendly and she knows everyone else.
The problem is that the friend in question is now asking if she can bring a date, and the date in question is someone I’ve never met, who refuses to actually commit to her because he’s still in love with her other really good friend, who he used to date. He and my friend officially “dated” for a day before he texted her and said he wasn’t willing to commit to her, so now they are friends with benefits, I guess? And during the one day they were together, he cheated on her. And since then, he’s hooked up with other girls a bunch of times. And he makes her cry. And she always has a history of dating terrible, abusive guys who cheat on her and don’t deserve her, so maybe I’m biased against this guy, but evidence suggests he’s not a great guy. But she says he’s suddenly showing that he’s much more interested in her, and he is asking her if he can come to the wedding, and she wants him to come because she really likes him, and it’ll make things cheaper for her — I don’t see how, because I’ve already bought her plane ticket and paid for her hotel room and arranged all her transportation.
And I don’t want him there.
But I also don’t want her to be alone and sad and lonely at my wedding.
And she also has a plus one and can bring whomever she likes.
But come onnnnn why does it have to be someone awwwwwful.
Being a good friend is hard.
Plus side: I’ll be pretty busy and won’t have to see him all that much. She’ll be happy. He won’t be in any of the pictures. I can shove him off the pier if he makes her cry?